My boyfriend and I just started going out last week. We are both really close. Me and him were having a serious conversation when I brought up that he thinks hiis dad may be abusing him. He toled me his dad leans him over his desk every night and uses the cane really hard on him. He was like " I don't cry, I've gotten used to the pain." He said that his dad will make up excuses to hit him but will never touch his younger brother of 14. He toled me not to tell, I refused but he begged. I don't know what to do, he hides it, no one will ever find out. We are both 16 and from the UK. Oh, and I found a video on youtube. I've never been spanked so I don't know what he's going through. I searched corporal punishment on youtube and found a video that looks a lot like what he was describing. I showed him and he said thats almost exactly what it's like with his dad but his dad hits him a longer time. Look at the video: http://youtube.com/watchv=_L_Kymx9QqQ
2007-03-26 11:32:41 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
tell someone
2007-03-26 11:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You should, but it could end your relationship. If you don't do anything now then you'll regret it later in life. If you don't act now then something even worse can happen. You seem to be in a very tough situatio. I've been in similar circumstances. I'd bet that he'll probably be angry and at you and his dad and really confused. If his dad goes to prison he'll maybe go to a new foster home or godparents. But later he'll realise what ou have done for him and after this, he could have a phobia of his dad and it could take years for him and his 14 year old syb to remake the relationship. You are in a tough situation and I wish you and your BF good luck!!!!!!
2007-03-26 18:46:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to talk to a teacher or some adult that you trust.
Also, you could call the police if you truely think this is happening.
Do you really want a bf who lives a life of abuse. Children who are abused often grow up to be abusers to their own children unless they learn to deal with anger differently.
No, I will not go to the url you posted.
You just might of posted this question to get your jollies out of people watching the clip and then reacting.
If so shame on you
2007-03-26 18:43:06 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There should be a service in your area similar to the Child Protective Services in the US. Your local police should be able to get you in touch with them.
I suggest you respect his wishes and not discuss this with anyone other than authorities. It could mess up your relationship.
The Protective organization may be able to provide counseling, resources or referrals. Remember that it is HIS problem, and you should respect his wishes on how he chooses to deal with it.
Lastly, guys will say all sorts of things to get girls to have sex with them. I have been told some pretty outrageous lies by guys who just want to have sex. I'm not saying this is what is happening, but it's worth considering. If they can plug in your emotions and get you to feel protective, they think it's a step in that direction.
Best wishes, hope it all works out.
2007-03-26 18:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, is hard to know that your boyfriend is being abuse by his dad, and also is dumb for him not to handle that issue, come on, we are in America, if he don't do anything right now, is just gonna be the same abuse for him or maybe worst, let me ask you a question, would you like his little brother to call you saying that your boyfriend is DEAD because his dad hit him so hard that he accidentally kill him? let him know that if the relationship is so negative, leave the relationship, do anything necessary to avoid getting abuse. by the way, is hard, don't get me wrong, but let him know to be strong and face the situation, so hide from it. good luck.
2007-03-26 18:42:38 · answer #5 · answered by Tony S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him worry about his safety...chances are that it may get out of hand one day and he could end up really hurt or even worse..I would rather take the chance of having it brought to someone attention who could help him and have him hate me then know that something happened to him and I did nothing to help stop it..
2007-03-26 19:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if really hope that the UK is easier than Belize I've been through **** my mom used to hit me but not again cause i was independent and the more independent i be the least we need to discuss and the less we had fight and the happier i am
2007-03-26 18:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by poohgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone that he is getting beat. I know you don't want to break a promise but if you really love him you will tell. I am sorry about this and I hope it will stop. I will pray
2007-03-26 19:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the PO PO on that mother ******* but check with Ur boyfriend first cause he might not want u to tell
2007-03-26 18:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by `Avenging~ghetto~bird` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell someone you trust. Since, he still lives at home make sure he has another place he can go to. Talk to him and convince him to talk to someone because it will continue to go on as long as he doesn’t say anything! Please talk to anyone you know will help you!
2007-03-26 18:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by storyred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...if your bf doesnt want anyone to know...then tell him to stand up for himself...but why does hes father beat him?...just for spite?...and if your still concerned...and he wont stand up for himself...alert someone...perhaps a school officer, or the school counsler...no one deserves this kind of treatment for no reason...
2007-03-26 18:41:58 · answer #11 · answered by .James'.Girl. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋