Why is it that some women seem to think the key to getting what they want from a man lies between their legs?
I'm looking for serious responses here from men *AND* women.
2007-03-26 11:27:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is not something *my* wife does (because she knows it doesn't work; I'm too obstinate) but it's common knowledge that it happens to some people.
2007-03-26 11:58:56 · update #1
I don't know. I never use this form of "punishment". If I feel like sex, we have sex, and if not, we don't. It really has nothing to do with "rewarding" or "punishing" him at all. Plus, if I announced that I was not going to have sex with him for a certain amount of time because of something he had done, he would announce that he has found someone else to do it for him, eventually...
2007-03-26 11:35:29 · answer #1 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women are immature and think that when they are in an argument that withholding sex is the best punishment. NOT! It's stupidity if you think that is the best way to handle your fight. It's childish. And they wonder why their husbands cheat! If a man is not getting what he needs from their wife, they will go somewhere else. Women these days like to be in control and in power, that's all it is. They want some power in the relationship and that is their way of getting it.
2007-03-26 18:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because sex is a very important way that men feel loved and intimately connected to their mate. It can be extremely hurtfull to cut that avenue of intimacy off, and because it is so effective at hurting men, it's a sad truth that many women will do it.
The irony is that cutting off sex (while it might work in the short term and certainly will give a petty woman the immediate gratification of seeing her man hurt), is actually the absolute *worst* way that a woman can wield power in a relationship, and will eventually backfire on her.
Cutting off intimacy to punish the man will in most cases make the man less likely to want to initiate intimacy in the future, will hurt the relationship over all, and ultimately could send the man into the arms of another woman (someone who he feels values him and reciprocates his feelings).
On the other hand, a woman who truly understands the power she wields in a relationship will use sex in a positive fashion - to show her man she loves him, to allow them both to connect, to bolster his self image and it will actually make the relationship grow. Going in the absolute opposite direction and using sex as a gift freely and often given will virtually ensure that the man will be more attentive to his lady in the future and will ultimately be a better mate to her - putting all the power back into her hands. In fact, she can get everything she ever wanted out of the relationship if she's just willing to give to him what he needs.
The best part is that sex is fun for both partners (in fact several studies have suggested that females derive as much pleasure or more from the sexual act) - so it isn't like having sex is a chore or something. When you think about it, a woman witholding sex from her man who she supposedly loves is a bitter and vindictive thing to do - not just to him but to her, and it's sad how common it is that pride and maliciousness inform how women use their sexuality to the detriment of their own relationships.
Sadly, I think it is very few women who understand how to use this power that they have been given. Many women only use it negatively, to hurt the one they supposedly love, when they could be using it to enhance the relationship and make it better.
2007-03-26 18:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jon S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well personally I think that denying a person sex to control them is wrong. I do know that women are more emotional and maybe it's not control but she's mad, PMS, kids driving her mad or something like that. But I would think that if I did not please my man - hey he'll eventually go somewhere else-DAH. So if she thinks she is in control she is terribly mistaken. Also this is where communication comes in. Not yelling but sitting down with your woman and telling her you want to be with her and want her to want to be with you. That if she really feels the need to be in control - maybe role playing would be freaky, but don't deny just cuz you can. It takes all of the spontaneity and passion out of a relationship. And passion is what makes a relationship good.
2007-03-26 18:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by godmamaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a way to push them between someone else's legs! Women think they hold more power than they do sometimes. There is a lot of sex out there...if you want to keep it from your man...he will be sure to find it somewhere else, that isn't what a relationship is about.
2007-03-26 18:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man is nice and loving to her, there is no reason to deny him sex. When the woman is pissed about something he did or didn't do, it is her full right not to have sex with him. How can she enjoy sex with him when she is pissed!!!!!!! It's not just giving him sex, it's about both of them performing an act that should give both of them pleasure. If one of them is not in the mood because of what he did, why should sex even happen?
2007-03-27 05:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What other method could a woman use except perhaps to spend all a guy's money?
2007-03-26 18:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those women are maladapted, dysfunctional types. Don't marry one of those.
2007-03-26 18:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously? OK. They act that way, because it often works.
2007-03-26 18:40:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
oh BS i do that because i want to,not because i want something!
2007-03-26 18:37:07 · answer #10 · answered by kat_luvr2003 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋