Am I hitting on her?

Question

So you guys don't ask me pointless questions, I'm 13, and I know absolutely nothing about a relationship.

Well, me and my friend (guess you can call it that; we need to patch up some things.) haven't been talking much, but in the past week, we have (through notes). Erin had said that she liked me when I had a lot of confidence, which I can no longer regain. She's been blowing me off for her boyfriend, whom I do not enjoy to be around because of his stupidity, and just basically ignores me.

But I told Erin that I still loved her, and she just said, "Wow." That's all she said.

I do not know what to do, but I have several questions to be answered:

1. Am I hitting on her? I've just been talking to her, that's all.

2. Should I just give up and not care about love anymore?

3. What can I do to bring my confidence back up?

4. Just why isn't she talking to me anymore and not finding me friendly?

This isn't helping.

You guys aren't helping me at all.

I loved her with all my heart, all the way back to November.

This is not the first time I fell in love. But I always seem to fall for girls that are already taken.

I even tried to set up a date (sort of) for the two of us, but she put it off. That day may never come.

Read the danm question.

I want people to fear me. I shall keep trying to beat up people so they will respect me.

Answer 1

No you are not hitting on her, but telling the truth about your feelings. Hitting would be,"you look mighty fine today." That's would be hitting on a girl. There are so many pick up lines which i am pretty sure I have all heard. You should not give up on love and from how much you say you love her you shouldn't give up on her either. Don't change who or what you are just to please her. Stay yourself because that's what girls like. We like truthful guys who don't lie about themsleves. To bring up your confidence I am not sure, but you can write her a long letter talking about how you feel about her and maybe put a poem in it somewhere about love and then give her some time and space to think about it. Most girls don't like to be crowded when we are trying to think, we find it a bit annoying. She's not talking to you or finding you friendly because she is afraid of what can happen. She felt safe and secure with the realation of friends between you and then it changed and she is just really confused. By going out with this guy she's testing you in her own way. I think she trying to see how much you love her and trying to see if your going to follow her. She might just say lets be frinds and your going to have to see that that's her desicion and you can't change it, but would you rather be her friend or not even be anything to her. This guy you say is a big idiot and jerk, well you have to sit her down and tell her this and also tell her how you don't think he's right for her. She might say that you're acting like her father but just tell her that you care about her and that you don't want her to make a mistake. She'll understand. If I were her I would try to test your love and see if it's true so that's probably what's she's doing. I know that's pretty stupid to do to a guy but that's what we do. Remember I just turned 14 so i can understand what's happening because it sorta just happended to me, but differently. I am not a old lady who is not minding her own business.

Answer 2

Ok first of all...you're really sweet. Now let me answer the questions.

1. No you are not...you're just trying to tell her how you feel.

2. No don't give up. Being there for her is all what she needs right now. Don't push on her about it but be there. Because sooner or later her and her bf will break up. And guess who's going to be there when she's crying and upset? you.

3. Your confidence should never have gone down in the first place hun...girls like confidence so don't let this get you down.Think about all the things you've done together...that's confidence enough because you know she likes you for it.

4. She might not have known you actually loved her...so when you said it it may have come as a shock. Tell her that you did not mean to scare her away or anything just telling her honesty like a friend should and if that's all she wants to be for now you're glad she's there in that way. It's not that she's not finding you friendly but things drastically change when a girl finds out her best friend is in love with her.

I really hope this helps you and best of luck!

~*V*~

Answer 3

Am I hitting on her? I've just been talking to her, that's all.
it depends exactly what are you saying and her definition of being "hit on"

2. Should I just give up and not care about love anymore?
sometimes a girl just doesnt like you and there is nothing you can do it sucks but sometimes the chemistry has just gone. it seems like she has made it clear that she doesnt like you and you probably should let go of her but not on the idea of love. you will find your one true love and when you find it it will all work out. so dont worry theres lots of time left!
3. What can I do to bring my confidence back up?
theres no magic pill and i wish there was but just think about the good things about yourself and if you think there is something bad with your personality then change it!

4. Just why isn't she talking to me anymore and not finding me friendly?
she is probably a little worried if she has made it clear that she does not like you and then you tell her that you still love her it is a little weird and kinda scarry.
it will all be ok and you have lots of time left!

Answer 4

1. when did you find out you love her? if it was recently, are you sure u love her because you want her respect [[you want to know she likes you again]] back?
2. you arent hittin on her but you may make her feel uncomfortable because she does have a boyfriend that she has loyalties to.
3.you are only 13 and this is probably the first time youre falling in love... why give up now?
4. you have to patch things up with your friends... they are really bringing you down.

hope this helped.

Answer 5

1. Am I hitting on her? I've just been talking to her, that's all.
saying "i love u" could be considered hitting on her

2. Should I just give up and not care about love anymore?
just cause one girl turned u down dont mean ur never going to find any1 else...... u sound like u use the term "love" loosely... (i'm 13 2 btw... i'm a girl) i'm sure u'll find some1 else to love......

3. What can I do to bring my confidence back up?
look at the good things about u..... do something ur good at and kind of show it off (like [for example] if u can paint paint something and show ur whole family so u get praise)..... and stuff like that......

4. Just why isn't she talking to me anymore and not finding me friendly?
maybe she doesnt like u that way and is just kind of shocked.... and now that she has a bf she prolly doesnt want him getting POed at her.....

there r plenty of fishets in the sea...... u'll find some1 else who likes u back......

Answer 6

Same thing with me

1. talk to her as much as you can
2. tell the guy to rot in hell
3. Make out with the girl
4. make sure shes bot playing you
6.make a date:P
7. She'll be crazy for you

Answer 7

Worry about school Z.
1)It sounds to me as if you are
2)Nope! Love comes when you least expect it. I promise.
3)Pray
4)Her bf probably doesn't like you.

Answer 8

ur not hitting on her, besides it seems that she doesnt want to be ur friend so let it go and is she is truely ur friend shel come back to u and apolize to u, it jsut takes time. people do chnage oover the years u just have to accept it.

Answer 9

13 ok u r to young to be in love you still lik her ahhhhhhhhh

Answer 10

She doesn't like you :s. Give up already.