I got back a few months ago from being deployed with the army national guard for more than a year. My girlfriend broke up with me while I was gone. I was in college, and now I'm graduating, finally. Before, I wanted to go to grad school here, but now that I'm back, many of my friends have graduated and moved on, and many have gotten married. I can't seem to find a new girlfriend and just can't seem to get back in the groove of my old life. Basically, I'm not happy here anymore. I've started thinking that I should go to grad school somewhere else or go to work at some other location for a while. Even though my professors/career counselors say this is the best place for me to go, I'm not sure anymore. What do ya'll think?
2007-03-26 10:50:43 · 9 answers · asked by redguard572001 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Like my mom always says......
"no matter where you go there you are"
meaning that moving is not going to "make you happy".
It sounds to me like you should go to the best grad school that you can and if staying where you are at is the best place then you should stay....concentrate on your studies....
girlfriends, new friends, a new life will come as you grow.
If another grad school is better.....then move, but dont base your current "feelings" on where you live......you will just end up being disappointed.
By the way, thanks for serving our country.
Trish
2007-03-26 11:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definently go somewhere you can be happy! You may still be comfortable with the landscape and the places you used to go, but the ghosts of change can really be a bummer. I have gone thru the same thing, when I got home, everyone had changed, and it just didn't feel right anymore. I found a new place where I seem to fit in and get along, and have made some good friends at the new home, and along the path of finding it! Now is the perfect time for you to explore a new life....grab a map and hit the road!
2007-03-26 10:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by margarita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar when I was in my20's.
Sometimes after the experience of military or away at college or just a lot of traveling, the old stomping grounds just loose their appeal.
I think you have to decide if it's the place, or if it's you. In other words, if you're unhappy now, will you just be unhappy again in a new place?
Myself, being adventurous, I left and things worked out for the best (except for this letter I got from a really hot girl wondering why I left).
Life is an adventure, treat it that way. If the new place doesn't work out, You can go back. (maybe)
2007-03-26 12:14:30 · answer #3 · answered by fra_bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what makes you happy. I know that's probably something you'll hear a lot, but it can't hurt to say it anyway.
If you're taking advice from professors and career counselors, remember that they have a stake in you going to school there. You pay their salary. Dont forget that.
A lot of people do go to a different school to get their masters degrees, or a PH d because it makes you a more worldly person. This looks good on your resume.
I think that you have a perfect opportunity to try something new and you should take it. There are many people who probably wish that they had the freedom that you do.
2007-03-26 10:57:24 · answer #4 · answered by misspurrl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I got back to my old stomping grounds after being away in the Army, I really felt out of place. Many things had changed just as you described. As for leaving, I think I would follow your counselor's advice. You still have a long life ahead of you. Best wishes
2007-03-26 11:05:42 · answer #5 · answered by doggybag300 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a big decision to make, but before you decide to move on, make sure your decision isn't based on the relationship you lost or because you can't seem to find a new one at the moment. When we least expect it is when it happens. You should be thinking of your future and where you will get the best education instead of your friends and how they have all moved on in life. Your time will come when it is meant to be.
Good Luck.
2007-03-26 10:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get away from the past. Try going on a trip to the place you want to move to, and see if it's what you really want.
Grad school is good, and it'll help in the long run.
Good Luck!
2007-03-26 11:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move away if all else fails, but wait at least a month. maybe in that time things will get better and it'll give you time to think. don't choose until the end of the month if u want to move or not. if u do, travel around places you enjoy that might work for you.
2007-03-26 10:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by ouchie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it would make u happier do it!!!
2007-03-26 10:58:08 · answer #9 · answered by Alien Demo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋