Do you believe that a marriage bond should be stronger than the parent-child bond?

Question

I think probably the majority of women would say "blood is thicker than water" and choose their parents or children over their spouse, however a marriage bond is not water. A marriage is about becoming one entity lasting until the death of one of the spouses. Granted, if a husband was to divorce his wife, then that is one thing but, if a woman was to leave her husband and take away his children that she bore to him or if she decided to play the harlot or go live back with her parents because she did not like her husband, this would be a great breach of a sacred contract. Once a woman is given away by her father to her husband, it should be a bond stronger than steel and blood. What do you all think?

Answer 1

no - the child is ALWAYS the first priority!

my CHOSEN spouse/partner would be next
(BTW - nobody ever 'gave' me away, because
no one ever owned me)
[also - my EX-husband chose alcohol and drugs
over our son and our marriage]

after that, it depends on individual relationships:
blood is NOT thicker than water!

{my parents did not protect me from being molested
and mistreated in childhood, so I hold absolutely
NO allegiance to them}

so in my case, my best friends would come next

beyond that, all people are equal in my eyes unless they act in a way that is mean-spirited or hurtful to others

Answer 2

I definitely think a wife/husband's bond should be stronger than what it seems to be today. Marriage has become something that people just jump into, assuming if it doesn't work out, they can always divorce. That is so ridiculous. I don't think you should get married unless you are willing to do anything and everything it takes to make that other person happy (within reason) and to make the relationship work. It's not supposed to be easy, and too many people just give up when things get kind of difficult.

It's hard to say how I feel about that bond as compared to a child/parent bond, since I haven't had children yet. I'm sure it would be very hard to choose between a child/husband if the need arose. But I do agree that marriage is not taken seriously enough.

Answer 3

A marriage bond should be stronger than any other bond. It's even biblical. The bible says to leave your mother and mother and basically be like glue to your partner. the bible uses to word cling. Children grow up and leave. If you spend all your bond on the kids when they are gone what is left between you and partner? Nothing. That's why you hear of so many couples divorcing after 25 or 30 years of marriage. They didn't work on bond they started out with. You have a very good and interesting question here.

Answer 4

Marriage is a sacred trust between two people. For whatever reason this bond sometimes breaks. But what is the difference between a husband divorcing his wife and a wife divorcing her husband? You say

"Granted, if a husband was to divorce his wife, then that is one thing but, if a woman was to leave her husband and take away his children that she bore to him or if she decided to play the harlot or go live back with her parents because she did not like her husband, this would be a great breach of a sacred contract."

Why is it ok for a husband to divorce his wife but wrong for a woman to? Either is a breach of a sacred trust. The bond between a woman and her child is almost unbreakable. People get divorced but that child remains hers (and his) forever. Same with parents

I agree that the bond between husband and wife should be stronger than steel. In a perfect world all married couples would treat their marriage as a sacred trust. There wouldn't be a 50% divorce rate and couples would work through their problems and stay married. But it doesn't always work out that way.

Answer 5

I feel that a marriage should be stronger than a parental bond. Children should obey their parents. If the child knows that the parents are a strong couple then they will feel secure and be well rounded, loving children and will then have a good example of what marriage should be when its their turn to have that special bond.

Answer 6

Yes, I do believe the marriage bond should be stronger than the parent child bond.

Why is it okay for the husband to leave the wife but not the wife to leave the husband? Both are wrong unless they are in danger.

A woman is NOT property. Not her father's or her husband's.

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Answer 7

Well...I think you don't value the life of women as much as men.

I think you view children as property.

And I think a marriage based on your values wouldn't be a true union, but slavery.

I think that any time people decide to come together to live their lives with one another its an important event.

I think it's unfair to attempt to compare the bonds of family. As an adopted child has the right to a parents love as much as any natural born child. And any marriage should be built on love be it the first or the fifth.

I also think that no one has the right to judge any family unit no matter how it was created if the people involved are not asking for help.

Answer 8

I agree with you that marriage is more than a water bond. When I am married that man will be a part of me, his siblings are mine, mine are his, I will love his family like my own and I hope he will attempt to do the same. I think the bond between children and parents, I don't think it is stronger or weaker, just different.

Answer 9

I think a marriage bond is stronger because you don't really get to choose your parents or your kids which may cause drifting apart from each other, however you can choose your spouse and most people choose someone that they want to hold onto for the rest of their life.

Answer 10

Well, if the woman has good reason to leave, she has just as much right to do so as the man. If he leaves, he may not be taking away her children but he's leaving her alone to care for them. If I was forced at threat of death or torture and had to choose, I would choose my child - because I know my husband would do the same. Yes, marraige is a sacred bond and true love does happen, but not all people find it, or come to terms later with the fact that their lover is not who they thought - that they turn out to be abusive or hateful.
And women aren't "given away" - we make the choice to get married. That comment made you sound like a big, stinky, sexist pig.

Answer 11

No, parent-child bond should supersede marriage-lust bond.

Within limits, a child needs to know that they will have the support of the parents when needed