I feel like I cant be intimate with my husband?

Question

My husband has been looking at internet porn even went as far as being a member.I don't know what to do.He denies everything but,they didn't pull his info out of the sky.Please helpI love him so much put I feel so lost.

Answer 1

Let me be little softer than the previous answerer, though (s)he has covered all points and answered your question entirely, though a little blunt.

I watch porn. I have porn pictures in my computer. When my wife asked, I told her its not because they are attractive or perfect-10 breasts or hot-a**es, its because I need something to arouse myself. She got the cue and ever since has attempted to be different and fun during the intimate moments.

Sex is NOT a under-the-blanket-in-the-dark activity!!! Its an exploration of senses, its an absolute marvel unique only to human beings. Because the rest of the animal kingdom does it only when they have to procreate and its seasonal.

If you feel sex is a chore to be done after the lights go out, then you need to read lot of books and expand your vision. Otherwise Im very sorry to say, the porns will only increase and maybe someday he will venture outside your house to satisfy his unfulfilled thirst.

.:Fishie:.

Answer 2

He might be substituting internet porn for a lack of sex at home. If your intimate moments together are few and far between, porn is an outlet. If he is the one begging for sex 99% of the time, and gets charity sex 1% of the time, porn is an outlet. If he initiates 100% and you 0%, porn is an outlet. If he's always ready for sex anytime and you always need the perfect environment (bed, being clean, lights off, before 10 PM on a week night, or before 11 PM on a weekend), porn is an outlet.

The primary reason married men result to porn is simple...men are tired of asking and having to beg for sex all the time, and getting rejected so many times. Women always need to be "in the mood". When your not in the mood "that often", and men are, porn is an outlet. They get their quick fix without disturbing you. Your not being bugged, inconvenienced or being forced to do something you could really care less about.

Think of sex more as unadulterated fun and not a chore. Try showing more interest and maybe making the first move towards passion with him. If your going to go about it half-a$$ed and think of it as an annoying weekly drill, don't waste your time. Men know when the attraction is real and when it's faked. If you want the porn viewing to stop, become the focus of his attention again. If you don't want to make the effort at intimacy, allow the porn viewing.

Answer 3

There are very few husbands who have access to the internet and don't look at the internet porn once in a while.

And if you are going to feel lost because of something people usually do, then perhaps you are not ready for marriage.