Ok, so I was married for 11 years and had two beautiful children with my ex-husband. Our marriage was actually quite happy until I lost a bunch of weight, my husband closed his business and I went back to work. Once I went back to work nothing I did was right. My life was pretty unhappy. Well stupid me ended up having an affair with someone I work with. It lasted all of 1 week and I got caught. Now before you say anything...I don't know why I had the affair and I completely kick myself in the butt for it and completely regret it.
Long story short my ex still wants me back. We both know that alot of things need to change. Mostly he needs to get back on his meds (he is bi-polar). He wants me to change jobs but I make more than he does and I supply the medical benefits. I love my job and do not want to quit. I still work with the guy but rarely see him.
His family hates me. They always have. Can this work? The day I left I lost not only my husband but my best friend.
2007-03-26 10:25:39 · 9 answers · asked by supergoober 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the both of you want it to & work together, yes it can work. You get out of marriage what you put into it.
2007-03-26 10:30:38 · answer #1 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have had a chance to get back with my soon to be X .. Even know the children it was best we ended it.
But in your case... Maybe you guys should slowly work at it.. And then introduce the kids into after you know if it will work..
You will have to quit that job.. Imagine him dealing with the thought of seeing the other dude daily.. That will add to more issues.. You can find better.
Who cares about his family.. My husbands family totally lied to the courts about me.. But told me to leave him several times prior to the separation.. Good Luck and don't forget the kids in all this..
2007-03-26 18:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a long road to get back to where you were when you were happy but anything that's worth attaining is possible! I can understand him wanting you to quit your job. He feels that the temptation is in your way every day you go to work. Perhaps you should just live together for awhile to see how things go, both of you with eyes wide open, each extremely open to each other in every aspect.
2007-03-26 17:32:47 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you decided that your best friend wasn't your best friend. And the guy you decided was better than your best friend, really wasn't was he? Opps, dummy. No it can't work, all you will do is argue, believe that. Oh, and make some therapist pay their tuition back by going to their counseling sessions. No you F-d your life all up, you need to find a man who would treat your 2 kids with respect, because if you did go back, you better be open for some kink sex, because YOU will never be enough for your husband. Peace.
2007-03-26 18:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by Super D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hubby probably has a real problem with your continuing
to work at the same place with your ex lover...
And he has every right to have a problem with this arrangement.
Aside from your being at the same place as your ex lover, I
would say to give your marriage another try..
2007-03-26 17:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try an work it out...Tell him to start his meds and talking to someone while you work it out.. (I'm Bi-polar and know how it is) but if you guys are willing to work it out then go for it.
2007-03-26 17:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If u really wish for this to work u will ultimately have to switch jobs. It cannot work if u still see the guy u slept with...the hubby will never go for this...would u???
2007-03-26 17:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might work, you do have history together. Why don't you just start out slow and see what happens.
2007-03-26 17:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he forgive you and never mention the past.Give it a shoot but hold on to the job, if it does not work out as you plan, it might be you life line.
2007-03-26 17:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋