My best friend asked me for $600 recently and I said no, I felt the reason he gave me wasn't really a good one and we got into a fight. I stood firm but now I really feel guilty about it. Hes been a great friend and I've known him since I was 9 years old but I really don't feel comfortable lending that much money to someone.
2007-03-26 10:21:54 · 14 answers · asked by Weevil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I would go back to him and tell him that you are sorry that he was upset about the money. Give him your reasons again for not lending it to him. Let him know how valuable his friendship is to you.
2007-03-26 10:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, they say that if you lend someone money dont ever expect to get it back, so never give more than you can afford. If you did not feel comfortable about the situation, then you did the right thing. Dont let your friend give you a guilt trip over this one, if you did not feel that what he needed it for was important then his priorities are in a different place. Take a look at your friend, their job and how they spend their money. If they are spending their money on silly things and then something comes up that they can not afford this is not your debt and you have every right to say no. Good luck.
2007-03-26 17:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by shadowsthathunt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing! Don't you watch Judge Joe Brown?! Haha, but seriously - if you feel bad try lending him some of the money and making out a written contract or a promisary note stating he'll pay "x" about of money back in "x" amount of time. But then again, if he was really your friend, he wouldn't get mad over something as petty as $600.
2007-03-26 17:29:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd understand if it was $5 or $10, maybe even $15, but $600! Damn! If someone even had the nerve to ask me for that much money...
Well, you should explain to him that $600 is a lot of money to ask for, and well, you worked hard to get that money (Mom and Dad won't hand over that much $ if YOU didn't even like his reasoning) and explain to him just like this:
"Listen, [insert name here] I love you, you're a great friend. (hug) But $600 is a lot for me to earn, a little too much to even think to get out of me. I'm sorry, but I just don't feel comfortable lending that kind of money to ANYONE. Don't get me wrong, cause you're my best friend and I'll always know that. Please don't be mad. Let me explain why I think your reasoning was a bit off: [why you don't think it was a good reason]."
Anna
2007-03-26 17:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by j♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what the money was for and if you had money to just give him. You are not a true friend if you ask for that much money just because or if you know your friend does not have that kind of money to lend out to begin with. Giving him the money would have probably ruined your relationship anyway, if he never paid you back or expected you to lend him money anytime he needed it. I say you were right, it is your money and he should respect your decision.
2007-03-26 17:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by lizzee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent decision...I think it is always best to go with your gut feeling. I think in our society we are taught so much that in order to be a good person we should be able to lay our lives down for our friends...that might be where the guilt is coming from. However, I agree with the others...mixing money with friendship can many times have bad consequences. Maybe he is hurt now but he'll get over it. If he doesn't, maybe he is not such a good friend after all. Congrats on your decision.
2007-03-26 17:31:15 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! I'm glad you stood your ground. That is a significant amount to lend anyone....regardless. Honestly, I don't lend friends any money because I've see other friends not get theirs back. And if it's a lot of money, the risk is just as high as not getting it back. I won't do "business" with friends or family. Only strangers. Period. =)
2007-03-26 17:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be mad about it but I think you did the right thing. You feel guilty b/c you care about him. You can explain to him that you are sorry, but didn't feel comfortable. Ultimately, it could have ruined your relationship with him.
2007-03-26 17:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by fairiesbreath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing by not letting your friend have the money.
2007-03-26 20:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never mix money and friendship it never works he will get over it and then you can move on from it good choice in not giving it
2007-03-26 17:25:45 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋