My best friend and me are like really close, but since she got a boyfriend, things have been changing a LOT. I dont see her as much and things like funny sayings and names that have always been just between us aren't anymore. I mean, he's cool and all but I can't help but feel she doesn't understand how I feel. At the same time, if I tell her, shes going to get upset and say that I'm all wrong...things are just so different between us now, but when they break up I'm going to be the one helping her through it....so my question is, is it wrong to be just a tad frustrated when my best friend is taking everything that was between us and making it between her and her boyfriend, and leaving me with nothing?
2007-03-26
10:20:10
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AND...I have tried to hang out with them but it feels to weird, they're all talking about their relationship and everything and to them it's like I'm not even there....and shes totally insensitive about the fact that I not only dont have a boyfriend, but i dont WANT one. She continually tells me oh you should go out with this friend of his or this one...and i'm sick of it. I told her already to stop but she only stopped for a few days... and then at it again.
2007-03-26
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Been there, done that and to be honest everyone goes through it. No matter how great of friends you may be or what age you are Mr. Boyfriend will manage to wedge his way between you two. I'm not saying that having a boyfriend is bad and getting a boyfriend of your own is most deffinitley not the cure. In essence, the only way you can fix this problem is to talk about it. Just trust that your friend (if she really is a friend) will listen.
2007-03-26 10:32:27
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answered by CrimsonStained 2
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I'm with you there. My best friend has been acting negatively and somewhat "bossy" ever since I got involved with the person I'm dating now; and we're in our 30s! Honestly, there's not much you can do, except just be the friend you've always been. Anytime friend(s) meet someone that they start getting serious with; that changes everything for that person and the dynamics in the lives along with others, such as friends, family etc...just let things be, feel glad that she's happy, you know? My friend I think is still really trying to accept my happiness, and I've had a lot of boyfriends who were total losers so....
2007-03-26 10:26:05
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answered by suzlaa1971 5
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No, that is not wrong at all. Alot of people feel like that, whether its with a boyfriend or a friend. You should tell her how you feel. And thats not just another answer that your tired of hearing. Tell her you feel left out. If she was really your best friend, shouldnt she be able to see that you feel like a third wheel? Shouldnt she understand?
Although, if that doesnt work, maybe you could get a boyfriend or a new friend and show her how you feel. Maybe that will make her see.
2007-03-26 10:31:34
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answered by sam_help 1
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How long have they been dating? If its a new relationship, then let her have a while to adjust. If this isnt something new, then maybe tell her how you're not judging her, but really miss the fun old times you had. Then maybe invite her to have some girl only time. Just let her know that you care about her and hope to have fun again. Or try hanging out with her and her bf sometime if he's an OK guy. Good luck!! ^.^
2007-03-26 10:26:22
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answered by Anonymous
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well u r not going to liek my answer....
i think that she is too caught up in ehr relationship and is kind of oblivious to the rest of the world but like u said u will be then one helping her thorugh the break up then i think u should u knwo try to just wait and ignore her behavior and jsut help her out in the end when she needs u because thats wut frndz do. u'll be there for her evne though she wasn't and u'll feel great then. she will also realize that u should have mattered a lot more than jsut this. anywyas once her boyfrnd leaves her u is all she will have. do u wanaa stoop to ehr level or be the good, sensible, person? think about it
2007-03-26 11:09:39
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answered by Lila 1
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One day it will be you with the boyfriend and she without.
Your feelings are normal. Remain her friend with the understanding that things are different and you won't have as much time with her. It happens. A lot. You guys are not unique.
2007-03-26 10:26:13
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answered by Stefka 5
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NO you have every right to be sad and frustrated you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel that is the only way keeping it inside is hurting you and she may need to hear it
2007-03-26 10:23:47
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answered by Chloe 6
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if she's really your best friend she'll come around.but if she is swept up in her man there could be a bit of a delay before it.
men come and go , friends stay friends, right!?
2007-03-26 10:29:49
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answered by Anthony69 1
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its not wrong.. i completly understand why'd you feel like that. but remember that you don't need anyone, and you've got other friends. you are not an option.
2007-03-26 10:25:20
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answered by MELLO26 3
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You need to get a boyfriend!
2007-03-26 10:25:02
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answered by fairiesbreath 3
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