my husband just got discharged from the army. He asked me how i felt. Should I tell him of how sad I am or lie

Answer 1

Why wouldn't you tell him the truth. Being dishonest about how you feel is no way to build a solid relationship.

You may need to find a healthy, non-judgmental way to say it, but you have to send an accurate message.

Answer 2

First, why are you sad?

Your husband is the one that made the choices to be discharged probably with very good solid reasons that revolve around his life with you. Sometimes we forget that it isn't just the wives waiting for the husbands to be released from active duty, but the husbands waiting to see their loved ones and be near them.

People who are in the military together form bonds that don't break easily so you will always have a family of sorts from his brigade. This is hardest on him, because he is leaving soemthing that he was trained to do and leaving people he cares about on a more baser level than our husbands serve together(more like we're brothers who have to protect each other from death situations).

Before you tell him how sad YOU are, you need to consider how sad he must be even if he does feel relieved from the pressure involved in any military setting?

Answer 3

So why did you marry him in the first place if you want him to be away from you? Maybe you need to take a good look at YOU and understand the vows you took when you married him. You shouldn't lie but you need to look at the reasons as to why you are sad he's coming home.

Answer 4

Do you lie to your husband often? Why did he get discharged? I mean, that is not just something that happens in one day. Be supportive of him unless it was a dishonorable discharge then I would worry about that.

Answer 5

Honorably, or dishonrably, for medical reasons,
depends, if it is honorably then support him and
help him adjust back to civilian life, and if it is for
dishonorable reasons, such as a court-martial or
other bad consequences then you being his wife
could tell him how you feel without lieing but you
still need to be supportive of him so that maybe
he will get his act togeather in civilian life.

Answer 6

LIE....a man's identity if very much attached to his profession. At least find something good about the situation. "Honey, now you go back to college/get a local job/go into business like you always wanted to. I know you'll take care of us!"

Yeah, I know it's stroking his ego, but hey you have to live with the guy. Godloveya.

Answer 7

Change is always scary. You guys will go through an adjustment period but everything will be okay. The bright side is that it is unlikely that he will have to serve in Iraq or Afghanistan so that BIG worry is now off your mind.

You will be fine in the civilian world.

Answer 8

Never lie to your hubby, no matter how small. It's one of those things that gets easier to do with each lie you tell and eventually he'll find out about one of them and question everything else he's ever trusted you with. it's not worth it.

Answer 9

If your sad because he will be spending more time with you and less time blowing sh*t up, then you need to join the army.

Answer 10

Just tell him the truth because if you don't he will sese it and he will ask you about it. But tell him exactly how you feel because he wants to talk about it and you don't find very many men who are ready to talk with you and listen.