Why cant we have friends?

Question

Why oh why are people sooooooooo jealous? i have lost contact with a good friend from answers because of a jealous spouse! educated answers only please

Answer 1

I have had some experience with this. I think it is only natural for partners, husbands, wifes whoever to get jealous of internet friends as it causes so much infidelity and relationship breakdowns in this day and age. May be you should have tried becoming friends with them as a couple.
may be you were emailing at unreasonable times when the spouse wanted to spend time with his wife. I do not know the ins and outs of your friendship but maybe these are some of the factors. Are you married, would you like your wife talking to a man over the internet and affecting your relationship, be honest with yourself, I think not. Maybe her partner became jealous as she was spending more time talking to you than she was to him, that was a good enough reason for me.

good luck, but i'd move onto one of the other thousands of friends you could have on here, If you are a good friend then i would not cause trouble within any relationship.

Answer 2

No1 what kind of people educate themselves about jealousy?Read the dictionary of life? I think you mean 'experienced' people.
Is this so hard to work out for yourself? The first motivation of jealousy is insecurity, the second is a lack of trust, the third is worrying about the ammount of attention directed to a particular individual, the fourth could be a suspiscion of cheating, depending on the gender of your friend...
And sometimes people are just selfish or don't pick up the facts first, how about educate your spouse on matters of trust?? And maybe educate yourself while your at it - to be honest I would get a little worried if my other half kept perpetually chatting to someone I have never met....
Think about it.

Answer 3

You have to look at a bit of psychology here.

Most people you'll meet have some sort of jealousy (in their personality, by design) its a human trait -not a good one, most of the time, as those that are jealous can often do (or say) quite harmful things, in order to protect what they see as their property... unbelievable I know.

Move on with your friendships, I'm sure that there's more good friends for you, out there -without the complications of a jealous spouse.

Answer 4

Ah yes, the old question again as to whether men and women can only be "good friends". A woman will always get jealous - it's just us. We worry incase this "female friend" is better looking, thinner, younger, more exciting than the old dear at home and that you're gonna go running off with her. A simple fact of life.

Answer 5

My ex was really jealous of my friends and it cost me my best friend. I had been best friends with him since I was 14 and I got with my ex at 17. he hated the fact that my best friend knew more about me than he did and the fact that I would spend time alone with my best friend. It didn't matter how many times we told my ex that there was nothing more than friendship between us and never would be and that I simply did not fancy my best friend my ex continued to be jealous and I lost my friend.
I should have realised then that the realtionship would g down the pan as my ex could not stand me even talking to other men and was even jealous of the time i spent with female friends and tried to stir things up between me and my friends by telling them i had said stuff that i hadn't. Luckily my friends knew me better than that but I was infatuated with him so stayed with him and was lcuky that most my friends were really loyal. Unforunately I hurt my best friend too mcuh to repair the damage. We apeak now (10 years on) bu I know we will never have the realtionship we did have.

Answer 6

Well ur spouse may be right to have concerns, I made a friend here and became quite attached , he no longer speaks to me so I have lost a friend and could have upset my spouse. Just be careful !

Answer 7

obviously the spouse is feeling threatened by the friendship you share, particularly as it is internet form, i do this as "me" time, and my hubby is fine about it, he has his hobbies and i dont interfere with them and likewise! i dont exclude him from my hobbies and he is quite happy to join in, he is way out of the comfort zone, understandable if this is something that she has kept from him, (sorry just assuming you are male and she is female) but same regardless, maybe they have issues that need resolving and the fact that she no longer talks to you is a sign that at least they are working at it, a relationship like this is ok if honesty and openess are there.

Answer 8

I think a lot of it is inseceruity among the friends.I know because my husband best friend I mean they were like brothers lost contact because he strated abuch of stuff about me.If he or she is a good friend they will always be there.

Answer 9

From what you said, i understand that the person that you were talking to was of the opposite sex?

If it was, then i can sympathise with your spouse, coz if my bf was chatting to other women, then i would not like it at all!

Answer 10

If you are a different sex it's hard. Just think if it was you partner. Infidelity is very high now because of the Internet. It's hard when you know nothing is happening but think of the other party.