I'm too responsible.
1. There is a preassumption by everyone in my world that I will get good grades, never get in trouble.
2. I have younger siblings that look up to me.
3. Apparently, I am a "role model" for all the younger kids at my church.
4. I always feel like it is my responsibility to make sure my parents are happy.
5. It is really hard to get go and just be. I have to do this and I have to do that i.e. improve on my spanish, clean the house, spend time with my family.
6. I'm thinking about working (studying ahead for my classes) during Spring Break. I just take myself too seriously. It's hard.
6. It suxs to be so responsible all the time.
Question: Do you have any advice for me?
2007-03-26 10:05:46 · 6 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Ahh...it suxs being me.
2007-03-26 10:06:13 · update #1
I have often fallen into the role-model type...yup. In fact, I can relate to a lot of the stuff you just said. The last couple days, I didn't do my homework, and remember writing in my journal about how it never occured to me that I could just not do it...it was always default. Not that I'm reccomending that you don't do your homework....
My only advice is for you to do what you love. Take some time out for yourself. For me, this means writing, art, and locking myself in my room from time to time. I often take myself too seriously. In the past few years, I've realized that other people really just don't care. Dressing up as a pirate and going all out on spirit days are a couple of ways that help me relax and remind me not to take myself so seriously. It feels awkward at first, but like I said before, no one really cares one way or another.
2007-03-26 10:20:22 · answer #1 · answered by Pichu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like myself. Always trying to think ahead. This is a very good thing and means you're mature, however it can become stressful. Depending on how much stress something like this puts on you can be a bad thing. You might have anxiety disorder too. I didn't think I did, but recently have been noticing I probably do. Sometimes anxiety, stress, and depression can be related, so depending on if you think your feelings are affecting other areas of you life (i.e family, friends, organization in your life), you might want to get an evaluation just to see. Buena suerte a usted!!
2007-03-26 22:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by HoofHearted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being responsible should not be a burden. As long as your of age to make good decisions, you should make choices that are both smart and make you happy.
I think there is nothing wrong with being responsible, however if you feel pressured by being responsible, you should have a talk with your family and friends.
2007-03-26 17:19:42 · answer #3 · answered by Lenka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
many many women got this problem they think they had to be so good, show how capable they are, and so on.
Talk with people around you and let em know your intentions not always cna be such and above all tell yourself.
being for example, "a god rolemodel" also means being able to take care of yourself.
go to a bar and get drunk show them you are a human being;)
2007-03-26 17:14:05 · answer #4 · answered by janne5011 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a book called affluenza by a guy called oliver james. i recommend you buy it or get your parents to buy it for you. It will help you to direct your life in a way that is important for you and your wellbeing. Good luck. You sound like a great kid
2007-03-26 17:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by wally 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a responsibility to yourself, to be yourself, and live your life. be the most accurate portrayal of who you really are on the outside. don't hide how you feel. and do not box yourself in with these standards that have been set up for you. be yourself, say how you feel, shout it from the rooftops.
2007-03-26 17:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by lifeoutsidethecircle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋