My immediate family members are negative and hurtful and I'm ready to walk.
2007-03-26 10:04:40 · 10 answers · asked by stward101 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I did years ago I havent been happier since
2007-03-26 10:07:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I understand....I've been where u are...I made the choice NOT to walk the reason being I knew I couldn't live with it...you have to choose whats right for you... what you will be happy with way down the road,,,say 5 10 even 30 years from now I stayed and for me that was the right choice...Now I'm not telling u things got any better...they didn't...but I can live with myself, and that's a good feeling, By the way I'm 62 and I'm still learning new ways to deal with them , If you stay , and keep the right attitude ( as in positive) you'll grow as a person...but sometime the right answer is to walk , only u can make that choice...just remember, u have to live with it....can you????
2007-03-26 10:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have. I needed to have my own space and feelings about life. I still tend to keep to myself for the most part since my family has so much drama, but I come around for special occassions.
I make sure to include the children in my plans so they can experience some of the good things in life. I've taken them to the beach for bike riding, roller blading, Disney on Ice, etc.
They are your family so love and accept them no matter what. Remember that only you can control your actions so don't get down cause of them.
2007-03-26 10:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by I Know, I Know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then go ahead...
If they are hurting you in any way even emotionally then they are not family they are only your family in name and by blood.
If they love you they will come for you and then they might be willing to be confronted on working on the probs you are having with them, if they want to come help you after you walk meet them half way and start building a new relationship with them by having communication as the fundamental foundation.
If you or them do not respect this communication or honesty then MOVE on and keep in touch but no close ties.
;-)
Good luck
(some of my fam is that way)
2007-03-26 10:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous0ne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My inlaws I call them my out laws! The are a bunch of nut cases! They want to put my son away when they did come by they move my stuff and drive me insane! Over Easter weekend I am dropping my hubby off to Visit them and I am going to visit my family. Best choice I ever made? Yes I think so!
2007-03-26 10:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's been years since I have communicated with my family. My family has hurt me more than anyone else I have allowed into my life. It's called self preservation.....save yourself and jump ship, you'll be happier and better adjusted in the end!!
2007-03-26 10:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by sugarbunz01 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your family must suck then. Everyone in my family is pretty easy to get along with, minus my younger brother because he has this chip on his shoulders sometimes. But besides that, my family is pretty great. Really supportive and caring, minus my brother again because he is anything but emotional. But what ev! ^_^
2007-03-26 10:58:57 · answer #7 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think I'm too involved with my family...I argue a lot...but I don't think to walk away, I love them too much to do that.
2007-03-26 10:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a couple of sister's I have distanced myself from after years of putting up with their "No it all" attitudes!! And one of my sister's is the type if you say: "Its raining out!!" She'll be like No that's not rain, Christy, its just fog that looks like rain!" And really try to make everyone look really stupid, when you know its rain, you know!! That's just an example, and I've finally reached the age, to where I'm too old to put up with their "Nonsense" and my mother told one of them that I didn't like their "Aggresive Demeanor" about her, and that I'd prefer to not go around her anymore, when she comes to visit our mother......so I'm totally cool with the fact she knows now that she makes me feel really uncomfortable, and I'm too old to tolerate her "Bolgna" anymore, you know!! Its not healthy to be around her anymore, for me!! And she has never quit treating me like i'm not 5 anymore, you know.. She still has this attitude like she's talking to a 5 year old to me!! she used to anyway!! And its really degrading you know.. So i got fed-up with Mom always pushing her on me, when she'd come down, and I finally told Mom, "hey when you moved away she & I had nothing to do with eachother, so why do I have to be involved with your visit's with her every time she comes down now, this time in my life, and my mom got all bent out of shape about it, but oh well.. If there hurtful towards you, its time to cut the strings, hun.......and dont go feeling bad about it, these things happen in families, you know.. Good Luck to you!! smile!! Your going to feel much better when your apart from these toxic people as I did, when I cut the ties!!!!
2007-03-26 10:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go, but remember they do their best the can at this moment at least. Forgive them.
2007-03-26 10:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋