i have never felt like i am 'at home' here in my area.
i travel a lot, and that's great.
but, i can't help but want to move away to Hawaii or London, or somewhere different.
i have family here, great friends, my home is fine, my husband is great and his job is good. and i don't want to move away from any of that. i'm just bored in this environment. i regret i never tried to live away before i was married and started my family, but not strongly (in other words, i am happy with my life as it is now and wouldn't change it given the choice).
but, i wonder why this vague feeling of restlessness doesn't go away?
i miss the 'newness' i feel when i travel with my family. I feel frustrated that i live here in a town where education, exercise (health), and etiquette are not high on the list of important to-dos (i live in louisiana).
any psych people out there wanna tackle that one?
2007-03-26 09:45:51 · 7 answers · asked by Amy S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I can relate to this somewhat. I have actually moved several times in the past few years. There is something about the new opportunities and new people that makes running away from our old routine so appealing.
I am now married, my husband is in the airforce, and I still look very forward to the new places we get to explore. Part of it is just that i keep searching for somewhere that I will feel truly at home. I keep hoping one of these new places will offer me the chance to be me at my full potential.
However, I think we both have to come to the realization that nowhere we go is going to make us perfect inside. My dad always said, wherever you go, there you are.
To put it simply, there's something deeper inside of us that makes us feel like something is missing, and it could be something as simple as picking up a new hobby.
My advice to you would be, go on a vacation now and then to a new, exciting place. Make a great memory of it, and be content that you've had the opportunity to experience it.
If education, exercise, and etiquette are not priorities to everyone else where you live....who cares. Make them your own priorities, I'm sure you will feel better doing so.
Don't wait anymore for a geographical location to motivate you to be who you want to be, do it wherever you are.
Best of luck to you!
2007-03-26 10:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by afwife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same. Ive never felt settled anywhere I have lived. I feel so frustrated that I can not just up and move any more due to having children. They love their schools and they say they don't want to move so for their happiness I'm staying put but its very frustrating. As a child I remember moving about 5 times and as an adult I've moved some 15+ . I don't know whether its just my childhood has affected me or could it be the gypsie blood on my grandmothers side.... who knows? But this restless feeling never goes. I hate living in the city surrounded by nothing but concrete. City living is not good for my soul.
2016-07-11 12:06:32 · answer #2 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi amy, at the age of fifteen i thought the same as you, i wanted to leave everything and go. i have done that as well,never more than 3 years at one address but maybe the same town.you know sometimes i think maybe i would like to settle somewhere, but i can,t think of anywhere i would like to settle.i would say if you are content with your life enjoy what you have and try and go for breaks often if funds are ok having a base is better than going for broke. but i have to say amy are you really happy with your lot? take care
2007-03-26 10:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Ken M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ambitious and intelligent people usuallly feel the need to explore the world.
Of course you're bored put of your brains in Louisiana...
Get packing!
2007-03-26 13:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
have you seen the film chocolate with johnny depp in (was on bbc2 on sat/sun)? you sound a bit like the main character that travels alot, but in the end she settled down, watch it and see what you think. . .
2007-03-26 09:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill trade the uk to be in louisiana..wadda you say?
i have the same feelings to, i wanna emigrate
to the southern u.s
im not at home here in england
2007-03-26 09:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of taking care of your situation you try to flee away from it all with holidays. Try to get a permanent solution instead
2007-03-26 09:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by janne5011 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋