How can i persuade my wife to get a job?

Question

Were recently married and young. She seems unmotivated to go out and job hunt but has no problem going out and having fun or shopping. Any ideas?

Answer 1

Include her in the bill paying and finances, so she is aware of the need and the problems going out, shopping or etc might cause if they are taken to an excess.

She if there are jobs available that she might be interested in.

Answer 2

Hummm, you didn't mention whether you discussed her working before you got married. If you did then one of you needs to honor the agreement. If not, you should have.

So what to do now? Firstly, I would not take most of the advise already given. Playing the "don't give her any money" or "MAKE her get a job" trump cards just do not work. I assume you both are adults. Then stop acting like a spoiled brat and treating your wife like she is a naughty puppy.

Pick a time when you both are more relaxed and have an honest discussion. If you do not get this part it means both you can talk and express (without blame) your thoughts and feelings about the finances. You need to ask "What responsibility to I/you play in the shortage of money?" For all we know it could be you who is bankrupting the family and you want to your wife to make more money so you can have more to spend. Rather then pointing the finger at your wife's lack of working as the reason for your situation, you need to be asking the same questions of yourself.

Answer 3

Since you are married she has just as much responsiblity
in helping with paying bills and watching the finances. Marriage is not a sit home career either you get off your duff and work or you work at home as a housewife. I think it is time for you to set some ground rules I do not mean control her life but explain to her that money is tight. If she wants those nice things then she must make her own money because all of your money you make is going to pay the bills and the food and shelter she likes so much. Tell her be honest if she wanted a sugar daddy it ain't you and if she wants stuff she can work for it just like you. Married life isn't staying home and watching nsoaps and eating bon bons like they may have portrayed on TV. Life is life not a easy television sitcom you got to work to enjoy the finer things life has to offer.

God Bless and Good Luck
It sounds like you got a shopoholic make sure she don't have credit cards because they go after you if she can't pay. Your married now any debt made now and in the future is yours too.

Answer 4

Establish a separate bank account in YOUR name, and write down the household bills, paying only half of them. When she whines and pouts and demands shopping money, tell her to earn her own; you do. Buy a newspaper and leave it open on the classified ads, telling her that you won't give her any more of your paycheck. She's acting like a child; start treating her like one.

I would have hoped this would come up before you got married, but you need to take care of this problem NOW before it progresses into a lifestyle that she is accustomed to and you have to pay her alimony after a lengthy divorce.

Answer 5

Really you need to just be honest and tell her that you need her to work. If that is the case.

Just remember, that when she starts working, all the household chores become half your responsibility. Having a wife that doesnt have an outside job is a lot more fun than having one who is exhausted and resentful because she has no time for herself or you.

Answer 6

Well, she is sitting on a gold mine, her vagina. As long as she has one of these she should be able to earn some money. Take her out looking at houses and say too bad we can't afford that, and she will say yes we can. I would then point out that you would have a better chance of purchasing a home by yourself because she is not bring in any income and then spending money. Then tell her that you and her can not have kids because you can't afford another depended

Answer 7

Im undecided what the regulations are in different states. besides the shown fact that usualy in maximum circumstances as quickly as a pair gets divorced if the husband worked and delivered in the earnings and his spouse did not artwork or she worked making much less funds then him and she or he didnt artwork the full time they grew to become into married yet he did. Then the choose calls for him to pay her almony funds to help her. Like clever that works the two techniques.

Answer 8

Honesty, just tell her honestly that you need/want her to get a job. But tell her all the reasons why, talk about it.

Tell her that if shes gets a job, that you will reward her, take her on a trip that she wants to go on, buy her something, do something special for her.

Answer 9

Just tell her that if she wants to keep shopping the way she is used to, then she will have to get a job. Plain and simple.

Answer 10

Do you have children,if you do maybe she can stay home and be a mom. If not ask her nicely. Also hope you didnt say anything like baby you dont have to work when were married.