Broken hearted and needs help?

Question

Hi everyone i just found out last week that my 17 year old niece is 4 months pregnant with her second child her first one is only 7 months old.My husband and i have been trying to get prego for 2 yrs now and no luck it just does not seem far it hurts really bad i try to act happy for her but it is hard to smile and say congrats without bursting out into tears.I am diebetic and this is causeing us our trouble i am eating low carb food and lots of water and if any soft drinks it is a diet. I am trying my best to make it happen for the both of us and nothing is working.I do not understand why it has got to be so hard we will make great parents i am so freaken tired of everyone ele getting what i am trying so hard to get does god not hear me pray at night and not see my tears.Please if you have any advise let me know i will try anything thank you so much.

Answer 1

My husband and i had been trying to get pregnant for 3 years and i was like you i was wanting a child so badly. I finally went to my doctor and he told me that i needed to start monitoring my ovulation by taking my temp. everyday at the same time and documenting it. When your temp goes up your ovulating. i also talk to someone about it too and she suggested that i try an ovulation calendar online. Just do a search online for ovulation calendars and plug in your info and it will tell you about the time you are ovulating. Try those things and if you still arent able to get pregant consult your doctor. It worked for my husband and i and i am 24weeks pregant. Oh also a big thing to remember. If you stop worrying about getting pregnant and stressing it will happen.

Answer 2

I was in your shoes not so long ago. We tried for over 8 years to have a baby. We had 2 miscarriages and a still birth in that time. I was devastated!!!! I felt the exact same way you do about other women being pregnant, and I thought that for sure I must be a bad mom if I couldn't even carry one! I would cry every time I heard of someone in the family or a friend getting pregnant, and it was hard for me to even show that I was happy for them at all. I even had a sister in law (she is now no longer in family) who said that God didn't think I would be a good mom at all, that's why all this was happening, but then she also called me a liar and a cheat, so I could sort of discount that.

I also felt that if God loved me, he would give me the thing I most wanted. I never took the time to see that maybe there was a reason for all of this. Maybe all the waiting and grief was for a purpose. He does hear you!! I might just not be in His time frame right this second. Maybe there is something you need to do first. I don't mean to make you mad, and I don't think it's anything you are doing wrong. You can't put that pressure on yourself! You are doing what you need to do. Keep at it!

All this being said, after all our struggles, and everything we have been through, we now have 2 beautiful girls, and a baby on the way. This after being told by doctors that I would never get pregnant. And now, I'm pregnant with my third baby in 3 years!! I know, crazy. I think maybe I prayed a little too hard!

The only advice I can give you is to keep working with your doctors. Keep working at all your dreams. Keep doing what you need to to keep your body where it needs to be. I know about the diabetic problem. My hubby is diabetic, type 1 and has been since he was 14. We thought he had problems, but he was tested, and it was me.

Instead of praying for you, why not try praying for understand as to why you need to wait? Or praying for your niece. This may help you to understand why, and may give you a little comfort.

I am sorry for your troubles, and for everything you have gone through!! Just know there are others out there that feel the same way you do and are or have gone through the same thing you are. If you feel like you need to talk, or just want to vent, feel free to contact me!! I don't mind listening to you, and maybe I could offer a shoulder to cry on! Good luck to you!! I pray that you will either have the baby you so desperately want, or you will find the reason why not right now!

Answer 3

If you are stress and wanted to have baby all the time.. It would not come... You should take break and relax your self.. be happy for your niece..
You watch your diebetic with your doctor... because Diebetic can be harmful for you when you are having baby.. Go talk to your OBGYN doctor and she would explain to you and talk to you about option for having baby.. You should not worry that you not going to have baby.. And when It comes it comes.. Because God give up a baby not just the sperm from the husband.... and god can take it away...
You see the last three month of your period (mark ever start date of your period and the end date.. and count 14 days to ovlation or before that...
and have sex for few days of ovlation but have be side of you.. not pulled out...
Or you can go doctors and ask him or her what going on.. and maybe your husband have low count in sperm count or you have too much eggs.. or something go to OBGYN doctor and talk to her
I have give web site you can use to cal your ovlation... dates.. and Good luck... Hope it works...
But remember YOu shouldn't be stress about having baby.. you should just calm your self down...
and when baby comes you be happy... But always talk to the doctor and explain to the doctor what the problem is.. Or you can always find a better doctor then what you have....

Answer 4

I can empathize with you. I work with a lot of criminals and it hurts me to see them get pregnant, but the people on the other side of the bars struggle and sometimes just can't. Do you think your niece might let you take care of one of hers. I don't think adoption is an option for you and your husband because of your medical condition. Are you Type I or II??? I really think it would be very hard on your body to go through with a pregnancy. Why not look into a career or foster parenting???

Answer 5

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Answer 6

I think it is pretty ironic that the people who don't want to get pregnant do and the people who do want to get pregnant don't. Maybe part of the reason is stress and mental tension. If you are thinking about it so much and blaming yourself for you and your husband not being able to conceive you are obviously stressing yourself out. That can't be helping anything. I think you need to let go a bit, and realize things happen when they are meant to happen. Also, don't feel jealous of your niece. The grass isn't greener on the other side, trust me. It is just as stressful to have babies when you are not ready for them.

Answer 7

Well, my husband and I tried for about 6 months and at the time 3 of my firends got pregnant and I like you really wanted a child. Well what I did was tried using the ovulation kit by Clear Blue and found out what day I was ovulating on, the next month I found out I was pregnant. Going on 6 weeks now. Many of my friends told me that I wanted it too bad and that I should just leave it in God's hands. But like you I was stressed and tired from trying. They told me to don't get up right after intercourse, and my doctor also mentioned to cross my legs after intercourse. One of my friends suggested and this worked for her...was to stand on your head or like lean off the edge of the bed after intercourse.

But maybe talk with your doctor about it and see what he/she says.

Good Luck

Answer 8

I know how you feel, I felt like that for a while. I think I got pregnant honestly because my hubby started taking showers around the time I got pregnant instead of baths. He takes super hot baths and they are not good for the little guys. I hated seeing all these young people with babies when I felt I was a decent age for kids. It seemed so unfair how they didn't even have to try and it happened.

Answer 9

I know this is probably not what you want to hear, but be patient. God does things in his own time. If he wants you to have a child, you will. Some times God's answers to us are not always what we want (maybe he wants you to be the proud mommy and daddy to an adopted baby), but they are always what is best for us. And, isn't everything truly great and wonderful in life worth waiting for? You will be a mommy some day, I can tell by your determination. Keep the faith, and never doubt that God will provide you with the child he has for you. God bless!

Answer 10

We tried for a long time to get pregnant, and i prayed about it every single day. I thought the same thing-that God didn't hear me. But honestly, as soon as I decided that i couldn't take it anymore and I told my husband that I wanted to stop trying, Thats when i got pregnant! You have to try and relax. But also I bought a clearblue easy fertility monitor and that did help. It was pretty expensive, but well worth it for me. It helped me to pinpoint my exact ovulation time and peak fertility. Have you two been to the doctor? It could be fertility (his or yours). Good Luck. God does hear you, but he also wants you to be patient and trust him. He has a plan for you and he WILL bless you on HIS time :)