Im stick of been told im annoying ect.. when either online or offline. I am depressed some times - im 19 btw male and dont go out as much affraid with mixing with new people feel tierd most of the day - I also am vunerable to disrespect sometimes - for instance some of my few friends seem to ring when they arent doing anything but other wise they arent interestead. One friend only comes out when it suites him and not ever when it suites me as theres lots of excuses.. how do i start gaining high respect, boost my confiedene, lose my nerves and make people thing im the don? it seems impossible it will ever happen.
2007-03-26 09:23:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you need a good activity to get involved in. Make it something that will boost your strength. That way, you can have something to do during the day (you'll have more time out to meet new people) and, your physique will improve and you can attract some girls!
2007-03-26 09:28:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
focus on what you like to do and what you wanna do and stop caring about their attention/approval.
I've been there before and I've seen the tables turned only when I actually stood up and made them realize that I actually have a life of my own-not contingent upon their being around for me or not. This confidence just builds, new ppl somehow sense it and wanna be around you, and the old ppl as well. It's up to you at that point to decide whether or not you still want them in your life though.
In the end, you don't do it to throw it in their face but rather to realize your self-worth regardless of whether they treat you differently or not.
In the end, you won't give a rat's *** (pardon the language haha) how they treat you, you'll be at peace with yourself and that's all that matters.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 16:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by abby j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not this is the way to resolve your issue - stop thinking of yourself and start doing things for others. Volunteer work is the answer. Something that completely makes you focus on others will do the trick. Let's not even think about what is in it for you but only what your help will mean to others.
Only other thing I want to offer is - don't wait on this. You are depressed from your question and it get's nothing but worst. In most cases it will not resolve itself.
God bless!!
2007-03-26 16:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Goodmomma1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to be unsure in social settings with new people. But the important thing is realizing that leaving your comfort zone will help you meet new people that are interested in similiar and different things from you. New things to try to do and see if you like them. Get busy with work, school, community service, whatever you enjoy doing, but make it something where you have to deal with so many people a day like maybe five people each day that you have to meet, help, or just do general niceties each day with. It will be a little uncomfortble at first. But your confidence and selfesteem will raise as you force yourself to get out their. You will be so busy that you'll be fitting your old friends in or not as they don't seem to be interested in fitting you in.
2007-03-26 16:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gain high respect- you try out in everything. You help people when they need help. Boost Confidence- try to do something you are really good at. When you suceed in it, people will congraduate you and you will be more confident in yourself. I don't know about the other two- but you have to try. Nothing in the world is impossible.
2007-03-26 16:36:51 · answer #5 · answered by Goddess Of Despair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and stop feeling sorry for yourself. you cant really call them your friends if they aren't there for you. you might be annoying, but you don't have to be. sounds like you need a mentor. join a club of interest to you and understand that you have it way better then you think. just drive through a poor neighborhood or volunteer at a shelter. you will mature faster then you ever thought you could. that maturity will bring you respect by your peers.
2007-03-26 16:33:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ben i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. You feel like you're in a rut and it's hard to get out of. Go out whenever the opportunity strikes, try to be optimistic and enthusiastic when you are out and soon you'll meet new people so that you can distance yourself from these friends who only call when it's convinient for them.
2007-03-26 16:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Vena cava 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do it by doing the things that make you happy.
Not by doing stuff to impress others, or that will get you money, or a big job title.
Do what you like to do, you'll be happy, and people will be attracted to you.
There's a lot more but that's the first and most important step.
2007-03-26 16:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by laffryot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you do for people to call you annoying? you should first off play the im ot interested cards on the friends when they want to hang out say youre to busy even if youre not maybe you should get a new look stop being a pushover when people push push back and don't let what people say get to you good luck.
2007-03-26 16:30:46 · answer #9 · answered by shyababy05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it a point to become physically healthy. focus on that goal and keep working at it. in the meantime, find a girl you can talk to as friends and it shall gradually progress to become the best relationship you could ever ask for and both of you will become better, happier people as you grow and learn with her.
2007-03-26 16:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋