My husband has met a new friend on yahoo answers who is a female.......?

Question

He messages her everyday but ensures me it is nothing they just help eachother get points and mess with people who make them mad. Things are good at home and we seem good he mostly does at work because he is bored and working 3rd shift. He occasionally will get on at home and instant message her. She lives in a completely different state far away. I just don't like him talking to her so frequently, but I don't want to push him away for being controling and it seem somewhat innocent. What are your thoughts or what would you do?

Answer 1

you know he'll probably read this right.
Besides, if it bothers you , you need to be honest and tell him.Even if nothings going on with him and the woman, problems will arise over this issue if you hold your feelings in.
Good Luck :)

Answer 2

I had a friend who payed cards on a web site. Had some conversations with this guy and played cards. In the beginning they were just Friends shared family stories, there day, was very Innocent. After a while the emails went to phone calls, and cards, my Friend was a nice person who was happily married for years then her husband passed away. Before you know it 2 years later this guy 5,000 miles away is now leaving his wife to be with her. So it did not start out that way but, this is a no win situation for you and I think your husband should no what he is doing is not acceptable. He should worry about his marriage not some woman on yahoo. It's one thing to talk to people but I would have a problem if my husband ran home to instant message another woman.

Answer 3

You have to ask yourself just how much does this bother me?If it is just something you occasionally ponder.Then why give him grief about it.If you are consumed by the thought of him contacting her.Then it is a real problem that will be an big issue in your marriage.So it is best to take care of things right away.If you two have a good line of communication with each other.Then sit him down and talk to him.Explain thing from your side of the situation.If you are concerned about his or her intentions.Then if you can get the info on her.Contact her yourself.Ask her to end her involvement with your hubby.If their is truly nothing between them.She should be at least willing to hear you out.That is if she isn't a slut or home wrecker.If neither one is willing to listen than.Use the two can play that game deal.And start up an Internet relationship and flaunt it in front of him see how he likes it.But before going all crazy over things.You need to find out how far things have gone.If he isn't calling her or vise verse,or if he isn't spending time contacting her when he is supposed to be spending time with you.If he isn't showing more interest in her than you.Than it may just be innocent conversation.

Answer 4

Do you think he is having an on-line affair with this woman? Ask him if he would mind if you could chat with her a bit. Ask him if he would mind if you see some of their past conversations. If he is not doing anything wrong, he shouldn't have a problem with these request. You may be worrying about a perfectly innocent friendship. If you trust your husband and know that he loves YOU, then just try to figure out why this woman is a problem for you and explain it to your husband. Men are usually unaware of it when they hurt their wives feelings. He probably has no idea how much this is really bothering you... Communication is the key.. Good Luck

Answer 5

What's the point of getting your self up set, You have to ask your self am I that controlling that I don't want him to have female friends other than me. It is possible for the opposite sex to be friends and nothing else. ? Do you have male friends or friend, And it's on the computer, And it does not sound like he tried to hide it from you, If he were talking to women and trying to hide or deny the fact then I would worry other that that let him have a friend.

Answer 6

If it bothers you tell him, or trust him, you know him better than we do. You know things happen so if your gut feeling concerns you say something your his wife,or leave it alone.
Ask yourself is this all he does (or) is he using the PC for other needs .
Last you said she lives in another state leave her there. if you keep thinking about her and adding her to your personal life you could cause an unexpected hook-up . Your husband married you. Add romance

Answer 7

Tell him it makes you uneasy. Make sure you do not attack or tell him off. But as you say, he says it is nothing, but it still makes you uncomfortable. That feeling is just as real as his thinking it is harmless. So talk, find a way that puts you at ease and allows him to have a friend. That is not controlling, controlling is when you tell him no, or what to do. So don't.

Answer 8

I have had females respond to me by e-mail on
yahoo answers but it is just that a responce as I
don't e-mail them back as I am married and I am
here on yahoo just to contribute with my opinions
as others do and that is all. So not speaking for
your husband , what you need to do is tell him the
true way you feel as you are his wife and you have
the right to tell him anything that bothers you and
it's up to him to respect your wishes and he should
know what is the right thing to do. Good luck.

Answer 9

From what you have stated, it seems innocent enough. I would trust him and continue your lives as the happy couple you say you are. It probably started just like this question you posted.

Answer 10

I think people should be friends with whomever they want to be friends. If its's too much, and taking time away from responsibilities, he should be more moderate, just as one would for any type of recreation/talking to friends, etc.