2007-03-26 09:20:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, because the each persons problems revolve around more than just one person or thing in their life. Make sure to address the feelings your having with your spouse, but understand that therapists are still very taboo subjects in many families and communities. The overall message people get are that seeing a therapist means your crazy or unbalanced when really all your spouse might need is someone to vent to that is totally unbiased, makes their little notes, and helps them through the emotions of the week.
2007-03-26 09:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by espressoaddict22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Behind my back, yes! Seeing a therapist in general, though, no I wouldn't be upset.
2007-03-26 09:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by summer_00_butterfly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only part that would upset me is the fact that he did it behind my back. Also if there's a problem that he failed to tell me about. But, if he's going to save our relationship, I would only appreciate the fact that he's trying. If this is a surprise and you thought that everything was good in your relationship, then that would hurt. But, if you new that things were rocky, then you should respect the fact that he's trying to work it out. Maybe he went alone because he thinks he's the problem.
2007-03-26 09:29:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Upset as in angry? No, but I would be worried as to why she thought she couldn't tell me, and I would want reassurance that it didn't have anything to do with me, but I wouldn't be mad at her. You make it sound like cheating or something -- would you be upset if your wife went to the dentist behind your back? Lol.
2007-03-26 09:25:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there would be no reason for me to be upset that my spouse was seeking therapy for a problem. I would be supportive and helpful in any way I could be. Oh but then I'm not married so it's a moot point anyway.
2007-03-26 09:32:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would. Any issues worth spending the time and money on a therapist have to be big issues, and big issues ought to be discussed within a marriage.
2007-03-26 09:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it definetly would not upset me, sometimes you know for yourself there are things you just wouldnt want to tell because of being afraid your other half wouldnt understand, or its hurtful, but to go seek counseling is a sign that the person wants to work at the problem, and maybe down the road you will be asked to come in and be a part of it....
2007-03-26 10:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so ignorant that they need to SEE a therapist "behind your back"? THAT should be your question.
2007-03-26 09:26:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what she was seeing the tharapist for. I might be thankful she was getting help for whatever the situation was without worrying me... but I'd be worried about her when I found out.
2007-03-26 09:32:47 · answer #9 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not about the therapist, but about the dishonesty.
2007-03-26 09:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋