they all hate me except his sister and shes 16
both of our mothers have past away and im not sure if that has anything to do with it. and my aunts and uncles dont likes him but they dont see them as much as i see his family my parents like him though. his family is mean to another lady that married into their family but that is because she lies and steals money from them
2007-03-26 09:12:50 · 12 answers · asked by ? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well they think that maybe you might do the same thing. i say ifyou dont get along with them and they dont get along with you , stay away. let your hubby visit with the kids. stay away and if your family doesnt like your hubby then you cant help it keep him away too. there is not rule that says you ahve to get along with relatives. it just happens. i wish you luck.
2007-03-26 09:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from them. You didn't marry them. And if he the type of guy who always hangs around his family then he needs to put his new family (you) first. You can't keep him a way from his family totally but the times he doe's see them after you two talk in make a decision when he going to see them you don't go. You don't have to. That's your right and he can't make you feel it's not right. That not right of him to do that in the first place. You stay home and let him go see them. And if there the type they just come over when then want to, thats something you have to change. That's your house your home. If you don't what them there you don't have to have them there. In don't use that excuse it's his family. If someone makes you feel uncomfortable in your own home because they don't like you then they don't need to be in your home. And be sure to tell your husband.
2007-03-26 09:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are married to your husband and not his family. This is very normal what you are experiencing though. Just love your husband and focus on making HIM happy. Just be nice to them and whatever you do, don't give them any idea that they intimidate you. If you do this, you will show them that you're weak. Just live your life and once they see that nothing they can do or say will come between you and your husband, they will eventually back off or just grow to except and most importantly respect you. They may never like you but if you have their respect, that's all you need.
2007-03-26 09:24:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married into a Mexican family and I am white. They were decent to me, Kinda. But, they talked about all the others wives and husbands. I knew they talked about me behind my back to. It was kinda like no one was good enough for their family unless they were Mexican. Of 6 kids only one married another mexican.
We got divorced after 21 years. I never felt like I was accepted in all those 21 years. I got divorced and married again. My daughter got married and his parents came to the wedding and never even acknowledged me. I couldn't believe they didn't have the decency to even say hi.
Just about a month ago, my ex husband's father died. My son went to the funeral. My exes mother told my son, I hope your mother has found her happiness. Someday I hope your father finds his too. I was quite shocked. They had a collage of pictures at the funeral and several of them included me. I couldn't believe it. I don't know what the sudden change was, but when we were married I never felt accepted. Why they would include me in his father's funeral puzzles me.
2007-03-26 17:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Karen H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them your not the other woman!
Be yourself and tell husband his family is crossing a line that you wont accept!
Then try and have a family weekend or a vacation for family or even a Sunday dinner!
Make them understand your there to stay!
2007-03-26 09:18:11 · answer #5 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to put his foot down with his family. They don't have to love you (it would be nice if they did) but they do have to respect you and it is his job to make them understand that if he doesn't time to decide if he's worth it.
2007-03-26 09:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares you are not committed to the family only him... now you all should respect each other b/c you will end up family but who cares if they hate you as long as they respect you and if they disrepect you your boyfriend should step up and explain to them they dont have to like you but they must respect you b/c you are his girl and you is who he wants to be with it... nothing will change that so they must respect you....
2007-03-26 09:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Im da Example 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT SOUND LIKE THEY THINK NO ONE IS GOOD ENOUGH FOR THERE BOYS.. JUST TELL THE TO GET OVER IT YOUR IN FOR THE LONG HALL. AND DON'T KISS THERE BUTT OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT , IT WILL ONLY SHOW THEM YOUR BOTHER BY THEM. YOUR HUSBAND LOVES YOU AND HE NEED TO SAY SOMETHING TO THEM ON YOUR BEHALF. GOOD LUCK.
2007-03-26 09:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by wildwendy102 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out why they do that through your husband.
2007-03-26 09:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you mother passed away, then how do your 'parents' like him?
2007-03-26 09:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋