My boyfriend has expressed his unhappy feelings with our relationship. He said he is not happy, he does not feel enthusiastic and motivated anymore. He has been pretty stressed out lately with his job, looking for a new one and since then he has been pushing away asking for distance. I did not handle it very well and kept questioning about us. He told me that being distant from me is the only way he can handle everything but I needed his love and care, I guess I drove him away. He told me that he is thinking about leaving me, he said he is not sure he wants to continue our relationship. He told me he needs time to think and that he will call me during the week to talk about this. I am so scared about this call. Is he going to call me to tell me its over between us? I apologised for being so needy of him and for not being more appreciativer towards him but I have not contacted him today after what he said at all. I have switched off my phone as I am really sad and hurt. What should I do
2007-03-26 09:01:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually when things get tough, as in the case of your man and his job, it is your significant other that one runs to for help and support. This doesn't seem like the right reaction from this person.
2007-03-26 09:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, this is so tough. I have been in a similar situation. my guess is there is some sort of power imbalance btw you two-- has he always seemed to have the 'upper hand' in your relationship? Do u feel like you love him more than he loves you? these are some questions to ponder. if yes, he might just not love and respect you the way you do him. guys love someone challengin, perhaps you were 'too available' for him and were too quick to drop things in a moment just to spend time with him, or you professed your feelings too frequenlty to him .. i realized i was this way with a past bf, which is probably the reason he lost interest in me. i was too focused on him and not myself (ive learned since). Bottom line is, take this as an opportunity to better yourself and fulfill some goals, enrich your life, and not waste your time on trying to please him to win him back. if he is unsure now, he probably already has his mind made up, and the worst thing you can do is act needy and cry or beg him back or apologize... just act confidant and independant, tell him that YOU need a break to think about things and fulfill your goals and focus on you- and someone who loves you the way you love him. good luck!
2007-03-26 09:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by katie colmes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now i am going through something VERY similar, except we live together and after he told me hes not sure if hes in love with me or not, we have been acting the same. men can be so damn confusing sometimes. i would give him his space and let him think things out on his own. i have been doing that, and then he comes to me all upset cause i wasn't acting upset!! let it be for a minute
2007-03-26 13:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by ANGEL J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the best friend and , understand whats he's got into!
You must also feel the same way because reading between the lines your not happy either!
Try and center yourself before you move forward with or without him!
Good luck!
2007-03-26 09:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone - don't contact him at all. If he comes back, and contacts you, fine, then you two can deal with this.
However, next time, use the proper category!
2007-03-26 09:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
turn it around....act like you dont want him anymore, and find something to do with your time for awhile and he will most likly come running back to you. but dont take him back right away, he will be testing you to see if you are serious. just keep acting like your done.....he will come begging for you then...lol
2007-03-26 09:24:48 · answer #6 · answered by sweetinjection 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALONE AND GIVE HIM THE TIME HE HAS REQUESTED......
2007-03-26 09:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋