She's 17 turning 18 in 5 months and she's been staying with her boyfriend because her mom told her that she wouldn't want anything to do with her (because she was pregnate) and if she kept the baby she wouldnt be there for her cause she already raised 6 kids herself
her boyfriend is younger than her and isnt ready to be a parent niether is she from my point of view
her mother started talking to her little by little and was talking to her and telling her all kinds of things like her boyfriend dosnt really love her (like he says he dose) and that he's just going to run around on her while shes pregnate and that he's young and stupid and is just thinking about sex and all kinds of mean things.
they've been together for over a year and were friends (before date-ing) for about 3 or 4 months...wen i asked she said that he was her 1st and she said that she gave it up just this past December of '06
and ended up getting pregnate
2007-03-26 08:58:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It was the right thing to do if she really feels in her heart it was right-regardless of the sitation.
2007-03-26 09:03:40 · answer #1 · answered by VodkaChick 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She did the absolute right thing. I don't blame the mother, either. The pressure she exerted probably went a long way in convincing her daughter to get the abortion, and I would have done the same thing if it had been my daughter. Her mother now has to get her on birth control, and keep up the pressure for her to dump the boyfriend. As her friend, you should be helping to convince your friend to dump the boyfriend. She should be trying to further her education and start some sort of career.
2007-03-27 08:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, abortion is never the right option. Adoption is the way to go, but it appears she has already made that choice, and now she has to deal with the results. As her friend, I would support her as she may be feeling remorse, and abortions are often followed by guilt, and feelings of depression. Be there for her. It seems to me that she needs a lot more than just advice on having had the abortion, but some real advice on her relationships (with her boyfriend and mother). She may be trying to grow up to fast. She needs to slow down and be a "kid" (teenager/young adult) while she can.
2007-03-26 09:09:25 · answer #3 · answered by psalms1192532 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she felt comfortable with having the abortion then it was the right decision. Only she can know that for sure. It is something she will have to live with the rest of her life if she wasn't sure about it when she got it done. Just be there for her because there is no way to go back and change the situation.
2007-03-26 09:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by lysistrata411 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so...
If she's "mature" enough to have sex and get pregnant, she should be mature enough to take care of a child. Or, at least have the baby and put it up for adoption..
Just because she failed to use her brain doesn't mean an innocent child should die from it. Abortions are not meant to be a form of birth control. And at 17, I doubt your friend has never heard the word "condom"... Heck, MTV has commercials playing for trojan all day long.
It's annoying when someone says that because they're 17 they can't have a baby. Well, at 17, if you can have sex, you should be ready for a baby. I'm 18. And I'm on the pill and we use condoms. I know that if I were to get pregnant, I'd be ready to step up. Be it have the child and raise it to my best. Or put the child up for adoption... It's really not fair to her baby that she murdered it just because she couldn't keep her legs closed.
2007-03-26 09:10:47 · answer #5 · answered by itskatyo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Since she already had the abortion, any discussion of whether it was right or wrong is purely academic. What your friend needs now is support. She has lots of complex feelings and complicated relationships and she needs the chance to verbally process everything that's going on in her life. Just listen and be there for her. She will be glad to have you by her side.
2007-03-26 09:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by not yet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would never have an abortion, seems momma didn't know how to raise her daughter (6 of her own). Adoption would of been best, someone else can care and love the baby!
2007-03-26 09:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by Claudia-Elena's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she did the right thing for her
and to all those judgemental people on having a go at a scared little girl who got pregnant and scared - walk a mile in someone elses shoes then earn the right to judge them
2007-03-26 09:15:09 · answer #8 · answered by dee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definitly not. She has no right to deny that baby life. she has just denied someone to live. there are child services that can take care of the baby. Not all the movies are real. Kids really do get happy families. LDS family services are always available.
2007-03-26 09:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by kilbo49 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only person that can say if it was the right decision is your friend. No one else can make that determination for her. It is not anyone else's decision but hers.
2007-03-26 09:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋