?Is there a difference between GRIEVING and NEVER FORGETTING the death of an only child????

Question

Please carefully consider your answer/opinion..Thanx..

Answer 1

Wow. Maybe the difference is that the grief 'lessens' with time, but never completely leaves us. We each have to deal with such a tragedy in our own way. Some people grieve for many many years and others seem to stop. You will never forget your child; and the sadness that you were not able to spend more time together can only lessen and become more tolerable.

There should be no pressure or time limits.
We all handle this in our own unique way - nobody should tell us otherwise or become impatient. That only adds guilt and defensiveness to our tender emotions. You have my deepest sympathy. I can't even 'think' about an individual being in such a position without feeling a terrible ache inside.

Answer 2

You can never forget the death of a child. No matter how long or short you new the child. I do think there is a difference not a big difference. It may take quite a while till you are done grieving, To this day I still remember all the what if's easily around my daughters birthday. But I can no longer cry when I talk about her or think of her. I grieved for almost two years. But, until my dying day I will never forget her. She would have been six in the beginning of April. I know what is is like and I know many people who know what is like to grieve and never forget.

Answer 3

I think the difference could be that if one is grieving then the tragedy of losing an only child may be affecting ones life on a daily basis, as opposed to never forgetting being of course you are never goin g to ever forget such a thing, but you are still able to live your life with having some happiness and enjoyment in it-i also feel that for some people they can never get past the grieving and never truly enjoy anything in their life again. I personally do not feel i would be able to handle something like this and would grieve forever.

Answer 4

There is a difference between grieving and never forgetting.But not everybody sees it that way.Some people feel if you stop grieving your loss it means you didn't love them enough.Although that isn't true.The person still can't help how they are feeling.The death of a child is the worse thing a parent can endure.When it is an only child it is even worse.Because suddenly not only are you without the child its self.You are no longer mommy or daddy you feel like you have nothing left on this earth.Because you were someone once you had a beautiful child calling you mommy or daddy and not you have nothing.

Answer 5

Grieving is a process each person must go through at their own pace in order to come to terms with a death or tragedy. There is denial, anger, bargaining (to God, for example- "I promise never to ___ if you just bring him back"). Many people often feel guilt, depression, and loneliness. Eventually, over time, feelings of acceptance begin to occur, which many can find upsetting. Accepting isn't forgetting; it's just accepting the facts. Eventually, there will (or should) be a feeling of hope. You never ever forget your child or loved one, but there comes a time when seeing a pretty sunset, for example, makes you feel at peace, as though your loved one is sharing it with you. When you've grieved, you can remember the happy things about your child and smile a little, rather than cry.

Answer 6

One never forgets the loss of a child & how or why would a person ever want to do that, when that child was a part of his mother & father, especially the mother who carried that child inside of her for nine months? To forget that child would be acting as though they never existed & why would we want to do that? There are seven steps to grieving after suffering a loss, but that doesn't mean that we ever really stop grieving for that child, we just learn, in time how to cope a little easier & get on with our lives, as best as we can. My son was only fifteen year's old when he was killed & a part of me still grieves for him each day but I can cope a little easier now. When we're grieving for our child we aren't forgetting, so to me there is no difference.

Answer 7

Grief is a process. You go through different stages of grief which are normal and healthy.

Remembering a lost loved one is also healthy, but not at the expense of daily function.

When my daughter died, I was devastated. I went through the grief stages (denial, anger, sadness, acceptance, etc). I won't tell you how long it took, because it can be different for everyone. You need to identify all of the stages and which one you are in. Take note of whether you have skipped any stages or are lingering longer in one more than the others.

Last november would have been my daughter's 3rd birthday. The first two, I spent grieving all day. But this past one went by without my realizing it until the day after. Then I felt bad for forgetting. I still get sad when I think about her, but I am living my life and moving on.

If you feel that you are not moving through the grief stages in a healthy manner, seek counselling. I have found counselling through my church and an unwavering faith in God to be the best therapy for me.

Answer 8

Yes. The death of a child is the greatest hurt there is and the grieving will continue for a while. Eventually, God willing, you will stop feeling the pain on a daily basis. You will never forget them however.

Answer 9

yes.

grieving is what you do, the physical, emotional, ups and downs, tears, depression etc. i dont think that grieving is necessarily ever over when a loved one dies. i think the manner of death is important too. for example someone who choose euthenasia versus the death of a child. they are both sad and dreadful, but one is undoubtedly more tragic than the other.

never forgetting the death of an only child is a matter, do you mean never forgetting the moment of death, or never forgetting the person?

Answer 10

The death of a child is this " the loss of a future where you get to live through there eyes as well as your's"!
If you lost a child you have my condolences because you pain must be harder then you imagined!
Grieving, and never forgetting are both valid and applicable to this situation!