How do you find time to be intimate with 8 month old?

Question

By the time you get done doing what you have to do, it's time to go to sleep. With having to go to bed so you can work, and having a baby that doesn't sleep through the night where is the time for intimacy?

I MEANT WITH MY HUSBAND. HOW COULD ANYONE THINK A MOTHER WOULD BE TALKING ABOUT THEIR OWN CHILD THAT WAY...A BABY THAT'S SICK. I AM NEW AT THIS AND I WORDED IT WRONG. THOSE WHO THOUGHT THAT ARE SICK!

Answer 1

You have to make time. You can't lose each other, just because you have a child. You need to find new and different ways to work it out, because when the children are gone, you still have each other.

Answer 2

I would take this as an opportunity to start with a set bedtime schedule and stick with it- even if you need to establish this with the cry it out method. I have always put my kids down to bed for 7pm and lights out at 8...including the baby. Even if the baby gets up again at 11 or later you still have two uninterrupted hours of personal time. Other people we know have used in the middle of the night for romance. I also have never had the kids in the same room as I past the 6 week post partum period. This for me was good jumping off mark for some personal sleeping time as well as intimate time.

Answer 3

I know what your talking about I have a 3 month old and a 23 month old. Your child should have a normal time on going to bed at 8 months, you should make sure he/she doesn't sleep alot during the day they only need 1-2 hours of a nap time and try keeping the baby awake until bed time. The best way of doing that is having your mate watch the child while you do the house chores and having him put the baby to sleep. After your child is asleep then that should be your "intimacy" time with your mate. It's not alot of time, but it works until the child gets older.... My hubby and I try to get someone to watch our kids at least once a month OVER NIGHT IF POSSIBLE..........Hope I could help and good luck.

Answer 4

It's a hard thing to do. I have an 11 month old, and I have learned to let some things go. I.E. if there are dishes in the sink, and the baby is asleep for the night, they can wait for tomorrow, so I can have time with my husband. Or better yet, use paper plates! I've also learned the value of nap time nookie. Weekends seem to be the easiest time for that to work. When my daughter goes down of a nap, I put everything else on the back burner and spend the time with my husband. You'll make it work out!

Answer 5

If you have the ability, send the baby to the grandparents (or other trusted family member) for the evening. If not, try having a sitter come over a couple hours before baby's bedtime, tell them you will be taking a nap, let the sitter do bedtime, that way the baby is asleep and you are well rested.
I have the same problem with my 6 month old, and this is how hubby and I ended up...getting time alone.

Answer 6

Leave her alone, people! She isn't getting enough sleep and everyone wants her attention all at once! So what if the question is worded strangely?

Anyway, I assume when you say "get done doing what you have to do" you are talking about housework. Leave it. Tomorrow night I insist that you leave the dirty dishes in the sink (heck, leave 'em on the table), the toys all over the floor, the laundry undone and don't even think about unloading the dishwasher or tidying anything. Let your husband know that tomorrow night is his night to get your attention. Assume that baby will somehow know that you have something planned, so plan on being interrupted. You could even make a "rain date" in case baby calls you and hubby falls asleep waiting for you. And let your husband know that you think he is very sexy when he brings home take-out, runs the vacuum and plays with baby while you take a bath.

Answer 7

By the time I get done with my 8 month old's rigorous schedule I am really, really tired. I have NO help during the day (husband works)....so I am really tired. Then I have the choice of either making dinner or feeding the baby. NEITHER of which I want to do. Then do dishes, clean house, feed pets, it just never ends, laundry....by the time all that's over, you just want sleep not sex. It's true! Our sexual activity went down about 90%. Add on you go to bed early to sleep when the baby sleeps, and add on you know they'll be a night time feeding, honestly be lucky if you get to it once per week....be real lucky. Sad but true for now!

Answer 8

I also have an 8 month old baby. The baby usualy wakes us up and my hubby can always go for a morning nookie. I put her on the floor with toys, my bedroom has been safe proofed so she is fine to explore so he and I can get some. Also, she goes to bed at 8 pm nightly (to 6 or 7) so we can always get some before bedtime. Do you have a bedtime?
Maybe you need to start getting the baby on a strict schedule so you have time with her and your marriage doesn't suffer.
You probably don't have much energy but remember (as I try to remind myself) this is a temporary phase, they do grow up so enjoy it and don't neglect the hubby!

Answer 9

OK, people- you know what she's asking. She's not a pervert- she wants to know how to be intimate with her husband now that they have an 8 month old baby. Geez.

To answer the question- sometimes you just have to stick the little one in a swing/exer-saucer and go at it and be satisified with a quickie. Maybe arrange for a grandparent to watch the baby for the night/weekend- you need time for each other. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience. My husband and I don't have much time for each other- and it starts to take its toll after a while.

Answer 10

i have a 3 year old daughter and my son will be 2 years old in a few months i really didnt have that much problems but if your little angel is having problems sleeping through the night the easiest thing to do is either give them a bath at night and the put lotion on them that also has a calming agent in there johnson and johnson makes some pretty good products so it calms them enough to go to sleep easier. if not than i dont know what else to tell you but i hope i have helped you

Answer 11

That is not gross...intimacy doesn't necessarily mean sex! It's hard to find the time...just get it whenever you can. I sleep with my 9-month old sometimes since she is still nursing. This is a great way to be close and get in some oh-so-sweet baby snuggling, especially when you're a busy, working mom. It is so hard to balance it all. I have a 2-year old as well...I get some special time in my littlest one after the older one goes to sleep.