My moms dating a greaser?

Question

I really like him but i think they should wait a while before getting serious. Theyv'e been dating six months and want marriage. I'm not ready to have a new step dad. I think they also want a kid. my mom already hates me for hating a past husband i don't want to share what affection i do get.

Answer 1

I think your concerns are valid.

When you're a parent, your kids come FIRST. She is only focused on herself and not wanting to be alone. You are entitled to a safe, healthy home, where strangers are not brought in at random.

Yes, parents are entitled to date but getting married after 6 months of dating is reckless and irresponsible for anyone kids or not. You have an obligation when you decide to become a parent to make good healthy choices.

My mother never brought her dates around and didn't remarry until I was 18. She survived!

Try to find a family member to live with, a friend maybe, or consider emancipation.

Answer 2

It's understandable for you not to want to share your Mom......but it's not fair. Did you ever consider the reason her 'affection' was limited was due to the problems with you and the other husband? Providing he wasn't a complete tool and you just hated him on principal, that is not cool.

Your Mom is a "mom"....but she is also a "woman". She deserves some happiness too. What are you going to do when you meet a girl and fall in love and your Mom decides she hates her on site and doesn't want to share YOU with her and makes her life a living hell.......does that sound fair to you?

Answer 3

Your mom deserves to be happy----Just cause your mom is married to someone other than your biological father does not mean she will in any way love you less. LOVE does not work that way. The love she has for you is separate from the love she has for a significant other. You are her child, her baby, nothing or no man can come between the love she has had for you from the time she found out she was pregnant with you up to now.

Answer 4

Talk to your mom about your reservations but make sure she knows that you do like the new beau and that this isn't a repeat of the last husband.

Also, maybe try to look at this as having someone else in your life that cares about you instead of someone to "share mom's affection with".

Answer 5

Greaser? Like those hot dudes from the 50's? Like the Fonz?

PS: your mom doesn't "hate" you. Just let her know how you feel and that you are only concerned for her well-being. Don't be a total brat about it though.
Good luck:)

Answer 6

this is why people get divorced so often they think marriage is the next step - mom needs to grow up & get confotable with herself she just might she would attract a better quality man

Answer 7

I feel your pain,if they are already wanting marriage after only 6 months,not a goodthing. They havent seen all the sides of one another. Just stay strong!!

Answer 8

Tell mom, straight out what you feel, and tell her it's not just her life that she has to look out for!
tell her everything ,and then tell her you will not accept her anger at you because her marriage "FAILED" her and she need to blame someone else other then you!
Good Luck.

Answer 9

If you've already addressed her about it,let it go.She's a big girl and can learn from her own mistakes...or just keep making them.I know it might be hard seeing her make these mistakes,but you don't want to lose yourself trying to help her would you?

Answer 10

Unfortunately, mom can date and marry anyone she chooses...if your situation is undesirable...try living with your bio dad--that situation may offer a better circumstance for you.