when your parents told you that it's time to be on your own by supporting yourself to school, renting your own place, and working. how did you prepare yourself mentally and emotionally.
2007-03-26 08:29:41 · 9 answers · asked by Lola 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I moved out shortly after I turned 18. Looking back (I'm 22) I didn't prepare myself, really. I didn't know what I needed to prepare for. Things I wish I had known/been prepared for are:
Be ready to take on more responsibility than you've probably ever had. It's scary, but it also feels really good to know you're capable of doing things on your own.
Keep the house clean. It's actually cheaper than a dirty house. (Just trust me, it's weird, but it's true.)
You're going to have times when you feel lonely. Doesn't matter how many people are around; changing your status from "kid" to "new adult" makes you feel disconnected. You'll pull through, and eventually it'll stop.
Make a budget, and make yourself stick to it.
Be ready to feel that things aren't fair. Life just isn't, but if you can have acceptance for that, it's much easier.
Invest in a laptop or cheapo portable DVD player and some videos. It's cheaper than television in the long run and you'll waste less time watching other people live their lives.
If you really need help, don't be afraid to ask for it. People don't mind helping out but don't become a drain on them. Learn to fix your own things when they break, learn to read a map, etc and be ready to prepare the favor.
There's more to moving out than just eating what you want and walking around naked (although those are some of the perks). If there's anything specific you're worried about, you can ask me if you'd like.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 08:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, star this baby. Excellent question.
Um, I think I was scared to "go off to college" initially, so I screwed up high school, and then got a job at a grocery store while attending a community college.
I cannot tell you how much I wish I hadn't screwed that up. And, not to brag, but I'm an intelligent person from an intelligent family. I basically made my life harder without knowing I was doing it.
Now, I'm married with a son (wouldn't change any of that for the world) and I'm attempting to finish my degree in social work. I'm stuck because I've done everything I can at the community college, but my grades aren't good enough for UT, and everything else is too far away. Also, I'm a stay at home mom, so childcare is an expense that I'd have to go to work to pay for just so I can attend college.
Anyway, I've gone off topic. Just make sure that you don't mess up high school, because you only get one chance at that. Don't worry about what your friends think, because this is your life, not theirs. Being on your own is a fun experience, and it's not something to be afraid of.
2007-03-26 08:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by katrose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by mijarez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents let me stay until I was 21 and graduated from college. They couldn't afford to pay my college bills but they helped as they were able.
I prepared myself for moving out by getting a job, having some money in the bank, purchasing things I'd need for my own apartment, finding a roommate and being responsible for everything. Not rely on mom and dad to bail me out if I had some problems.
2007-03-26 08:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first time I moved out wasn't until I was 27 - I wanted to much sooner, but my boyfriend at the time wanted to save and buy a house rather than rent an apartment (and he had the house 2 years before it was even livable). After one year of that, I moved back in with my parents for four more years. My mother didn't want me to go, but my dad did his best to drive us all nuts. Now a year and a half later, I'm buying out of my lease and moving in with my boyfriend.
To move out, I didn't do much of anything to prepare myself mentally and emotionally, I just did it. Of course, it turned out to be an emotional day regardless because my younger brother had one of his psychotic episodes and nearly killed us all.
2007-03-26 08:39:54 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
moving out at 18 years of age is probably phased out in this time of year. The generations that we have today is kids rely too much on their parents and siblings. Sometimes indepency is not ready for them. Unfortunately this is not good for the parents. For 18 years I believe parents have the right to enjoy the remaining times of their lives.
2007-03-26 10:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by acuraboy1978 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I didn't move out of my family's home until I was 27 - they wanted me there and loved having me, then I got married and moved in with my hubby. It felt natural and exactly the right time.
2007-03-26 08:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you take the necessary steps into adulthood that will lead you to independancy, there will be no need for preperation. Your parents, gardians or mentors have given you what you need to survive. Everything will unfold the way it's supposed to.
2007-03-26 08:47:04 · answer #8 · answered by Nik 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
what are you talking about? your sopposed to be sopporting yourself since you were 16... what you talking about?
2007-03-26 10:26:12 · answer #9 · answered by Paris, je t'aime 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋