i have a g/f but i want to be with a guy so bad. i did it back in high school. how do i tell her but not hurt her. i still love her but i think this will crush her. is there a way not to hurt her. i still want to date her but i need to fill this feeling i have. please help....
2007-03-26 08:26:19 · 15 answers · asked by ricky 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Be open with her. It's not fair to do that on the side and not tell her. It's not fair to you because you have this need to fill. If she is ok with it and you can discuss this with her then she is a true love. If she rejects this and she knows how important it is to you then she probably wasn't right for you. I know what you mean and understand that you have the need and can be difficult to deny yourself.
2007-03-26 08:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by mac_attack_51 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will hurt her, but if you are straightforward with her, I don't think she'd have too much of a problem. Just sit down on the couch together and when you're both comfortable say "Honey, I've got something to tell you... I'm bisexual. I love you very much, but I also have a sexual need to be with guys." And just take it from there. If she really loves you she will understand, and who knows maybe she'll even be cool with her and you and a guy all together, if you get my drift. Good luck.
2007-03-26 15:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Rat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man...thats a tough situation you got there. I'm thinking the best way to do it is to have a threesome with another guy. Still I think that you need to take a step back and really think about what you want in life. Are you gay? Bi? Curious? These are lifes crazy questions. The sooner you figure it out the sooner you can live your life and have sex with whoever you want!
2007-03-26 15:32:41 · answer #3 · answered by tauro5484 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a g/f... and I speak with experience... I went further than that, I had a wife.
Do you have any idea how selfish, deceitful, and hurtful you are being toward this girl "friend".
Why don't you just cut the crap, grow some balls, and have the courage to BE who you really want to be.
OR... you can keep on PRETENDING and believing you are straight and just curious... You can keep on ruining your life, along with the lives of every person who believes you are something you really are NOT.
2007-03-26 15:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by J Andy A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if you have a girl why would you desire to be with a dude. If you tell her you will kill her. Man why do you want to be with a dude any way? Do not tell her, that is the only way that I could see. You can do more enjoyable things with a woman/girl than you can with a guy
2007-03-26 15:35:47 · answer #5 · answered by robert s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't sit on the fence with this(no pun intended)
You can always introduce "toys" into the bedroom. Experiment on her and let her do the same to you. That might help break the ice on what you REALLY want to do
2007-03-26 15:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by ryee40007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you care for her alot... Tell her its not working out for "You".
Best thing to do.
Be there for her just like you are now. Dont drop her like a sack of rocks.... thats kinda messed up i think. Just care and show her you still care but you found someone else ... get any of this? lol
Hope this helps! =)
2007-03-26 15:31:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her its not fair on her part to have such a jerk of a b/f that doesnt only want her. a girl deserves a guy devoted to her that doesnt want anyone else but her. tell her ur very sry but cant give tat to her. tell her ur gay, and tell her ur sry. theres no easy way to tell her this.. but the longer u put it off, the harder its going to be. good luck!
2007-03-26 15:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by AshleyMarie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not hurting cannot be done. Not hurting her a lot can possibly be done. Be kind, but truthful. It's the only way.
2007-03-26 16:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you want to stay with her but have sex with guys on the side?. Please leave her, if you really love her let her go so she can find someone that wants her and only her. You are a confuse selfish guy that just want to have the cake and eat it.
2007-03-26 15:30:31 · answer #10 · answered by rickyhunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋