what is it with people who think marraige is the only way to show your "true love and commitment" my parents have been together 33 years now and aren't married. Does that mean they don't really love each other and it's just another casual fling!
This is the 21st century!!!!!! 1/3 of marraiges end in divorce. Yeah that really shows dedication.
I was just reading a question about a 19yr old who wants a baby with her long term boyfriend and someone was outraged that they weren't married! Is it okay for a couple who are married but permanently argue to have a baby but not for a loving commited unmarried couple?
God, I'm sorry to ramble on but really? C'mon guys, be a little bit open-minded!
2007-03-26 08:25:58 · 20 answers · asked by just_a_metaphor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well. it is obvious that your parents have a very deep commitment towards eachother. The idea of marriage and a wedding is very symbolic.. if your parents were just doing another casual fling i don't think it would have lasted as long as it has... Some people may feel they need the marriage symbols to feel truelly dedicated to another person.. but the way i see it... is Do what works best for you!!!!!
2007-03-26 08:31:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sofa kings woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not okay for a couple to argue permanently. Why can't married people actually have healthy, happy relationships? This argument is always brought out in support of couples who live together, without marriage.
Personally, I don't care either way, but I do think the woman is almost always worse off in a breakup, than if the couple had married. And of course, stats show that couples who aren't married break up even quicker and more frequently than married couples.
It's more than just a "piece of paper". It's a legal contract.
2007-03-26 08:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the difference between what your parents do and what married people do? In some cultures, living together for that long and having kids automatically makes them married.
So they do live like a married couple, only they are not legally married. So you should ask yourself, is it the concept of being officially married that breaks marriages or just that the couple stop loving each other, which by the way can happen with your parents, and the fact that they are not married makes it easier for them to split up. So which is better?
2007-03-26 08:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by sure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage continues to be the primary societal institution where men and women choose to declare their love, if not procreate, and in doing so - not just as husband and wife - but by becoming parents to a child. Children coming into the world really do deserve a Mom and a Dad, you had one of each, why would you deny a child the same? I can't speak to your parents feelings for one another, perhaps there is a reason they are not married. I would suggest it is unusual. That said...
Love and marriage don't go out of style like your fashion designer clothes dear, rather, it is a traditional, long standing and accepted manner for loved ones in our world, whether you care to recognize or accept this, or not.
If you don't believe in it, I would suggest not doing it. -But let me add, it is pretty selfish to deny a child coming into this world, a Mom AND a Dad starting out...whatever happens thereafter, happens, but the original intent and commitment was there.. I think it is sadly unfair and most selfish to do so. A child created by two loving people deserves more than this, don't you think?
Grace
2007-03-26 08:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people need it, because it's important to them. We are open-minded, but then the reverse also needs to be true about someone like you professing an opinion - you need to listen to us, too.
Some of us believe in a religion and a way of life. That means being married, being monogamous, and raising children into a stable and secure home.
And you have the stat wrong. The divorce rate is FIFTY per cent in America. Bet it's not one quarter that for religious people who get married!
I totally think its fine your parents have stayed shacked up for so long - good for them. And that they actually raised a daughter with a voice, that's commendable. Kudos to them!
2007-03-26 10:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your parents have achieved something which isnt that common these days, even between married people, but i still believe in marriage, its a personal thing, like religion or politics..it means something to me and i hold it as sacred, theres something special about standing up and pledging your love and life to somebody before God, your friends and family and your community. Living together isnt a crime but neither is marriage, people bastardize marriage these days but am old fashioned and want it for my children too, so i guess am passing down my values to them. i believe in the sanctity of marriage and all that it stands for. on the legal side, if you dont leave a will and you die then your live-in- partner might have a fight on their hand to keep the home you shared and any money you have together, the dead persons family have more of a claim.
2007-03-26 08:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by scotgal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my partner have been together for 5years and have a beautiful child together. we dont see the need in getting married, were happy as we are, my partner works and we have a lovely home. Why does a piece of paper matter? Plus weddings can be very costly, not everyone can afford to get married.
2007-03-26 08:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Clergy
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The Flower Arrangers
The Caterers
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2007-03-26 08:36:41 · answer #8 · answered by ashymojo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 150%. Love and marriage do not have to be shown by applying to the government for a piece of paper. If you love your partner, I don't think it matters how many dotted lines you sign on or don't. Thank you for your opinion.
2007-03-26 08:30:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
best question iv seen here on that subject , yes your right who needs it, what does it mean, IT MEANS YOU SIGN A BIT OF PAPER TO SAY YOU CANT DO THIS N THAT ANYMORE, if you ask me life stops when you get married, iv been there, and i want to be single again, i want my free life back, but who believes that, nobody so i say to them ok give it a shot, let em see for them selves
2007-03-28 04:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋