My guy was a club-going drinker who hung out with the guys and liked to have a lot of fun. We have gone through a rough patch (that is really putting it lightly) and all of a sudden he says he can't stay with me in the same house. He left 3 weeks ago and is staying with a relative, looking for an apartment. He has begun praying a lot, not hanging out with his friends at all, not drinking and doing a lot of odd things. I am pleased that he is spiritual, don't get me wrong, but he says God is telling him that he needs to focus on himself. I think he's being selfish. Cheating is not an issue - I have checked up on him frequently. His car is always there at night after work and it stays there until he goes to work the next day. I have access to phone records - no strange numbers have been called. I'm at a loss. He says he loves me and doesn't want a divorce, just time to focus on himself and see what happens. ARGH
2007-03-26 08:24:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you letting him make all the decisions here??
It doesn't matter if he's living a clean lifestyle, if you want a marriage where you actually live with your husband, then tell him. Give him a little time to get his head back together again (provided he goes to counselling with you) but make it perfectly clear that if he wants the marriage, he'll have to move back in. Period. If he won't move back in, then file for divorce.
Honestly, it sounds like he doesn't want the marriage anymore but is too afraid or too lazy to move on it.
2007-03-26 09:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels like you are a bad influence on him and he just needs a break from you. Sometimes when we have relationship problems its because of personal issues that we need to address alone. If I were you I would take this time as an opportunity to reflect on yourself and address any issues you may have. Insted of checking phone records and driving by his house at night why dont you take a look in the mirror and say a few prayers yourself? You can start with thanking God for keeping your husband safe, sober and out the clubs!
2007-03-26 17:20:07 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go ARGH too!
If he's into God, then he knows that men are supposed to look after their families, not live with "friends".
I suppose you've got to sit it out and see what happens. Have patience.
2007-03-26 15:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm..sounds like he needs time to figure out what he really wants...i would agree to that , but only for a limited amount of time....sometimes we all need time to think...if cheating isnt an issue..trust he will make the right decision, and come home when he feels more secure
2007-03-26 15:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by beachnut222000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he changed and is a Christian that's great but i don't under stand either why he don't live with you his wife that don't make sense so i don't know what to tell you
2007-03-26 15:33:25 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋