How would i know if my husband has low..................?

Question

low self esteem, trust issues, ect????Also how would i know if my husband is smothering me or is afraid of loosing me? Do they put off certain signs or no??

I love him to death i mean i would do anything for him, he is my one and only however he gets very insecure if guys walk by and look at me, or if i look in the direction of a man, he gets upset if my guy friends text me just saying what's up, he always has to know who is texting me, calling me, he wants to know exactly what the messages say ect..
Also if were watching a movies and their is a good looking man on the t.v, i won't even say anything he will sit their and watch me to see if i am staring or making faces to the guys on t.v like i want to do them or something for example ill be my husband. " haha I see you, staring at that guys body like you want to do him". I look at him and say no babe your trippin and he says " ya huh i saw you, you don't even look at me that way."
I tell him i'm watching the dam movie chill out

Answer 1

He definitely has some issues going on, Hun. But there's nothing that you can do to help. My ex-husband was very jealous of me. It started small and "cute". But then it escalated to him pretending to go to work and watch me through the windows. If there's a green-eyed monster there, it needs to be killed quickly. No matter how small or "cute" the monster is, he WILL grow and become ugly. You need to have a heart-to-heart with this guy. Tell your husband that you do not like his jealousy. Tell him that it bothers you. Explain to him that he needs to trust you completely. I am the type of person that if they accuse, I'll do. (I gave my ex a very good show.) The man needs to have solid proof that you're unfaithful before he starts these things. If not, he could very well drive you to it. My advice is to talk with him as I stated above. If he won't talk, or doesn't listen, then just suggest some "apart" time. If he's meant to be, he'll come back and be willing to control his jealousy. I am currently married to a man who loves porn. What would happen if I were jealous of the stupid pics & videos? I kind of like the mood they put him in. :-) And I have a boyfriend that I met before my husband. One who I used to be sexually active with. My husband isn't jealous... he's actually became friends with him, too. Something needs done NOW or you two will not last. I know from experience. Hope it turns out good for you, Hun.

Answer 2

You need to have a heart to heart with the dude and lay it all out. He is very insecure, but he is going to have to learn how to come to grips with it and just "grin and bear it". The repeated comments are made to illicit a "desired" response from you. He's wanting constant reinforcement from you that you are not desiring other men. I can only imagine how much this unwanted behavior is driving you up the wall.

You are just going to have to lay down the law and give him your "final answer". NO, I DONT WANT ANYONE ELSE...SO DON'T YOU DARE MAKE ANYMORE COMMENTS ABOUT THIS SUBJECT. Tell him...if you keep this up, maybe I'll get so sick and tied of your behavior that I'll start looking around.

Answer 3

wow I def see red flags. He definitely has self esteem issues. I would just keep reassuring him but definitely tell him that he either needs to calm down or you might need to reavaluate the relationship, especially if he cant trust you when you are obviously innocent.

Answer 4

sounds like to me you already know he has low self esteem...and all that other stuff. Let me tell you it will only get WORSE with time. Sounds like yall might need some marriage counsel if you are willing to do whatever it takes to keep him.

Answer 5

its in your power if you really want to help him, give up guy 'friends', you know this is hurting him, and he must come first. this isnt right, i wouldn't do one thing to make my husband insecure--of course guys look at me, i look away.

Answer 6

IF you truly loved your husband you would KNOW the type of person he is.