why do some people lie and decive everyone they come in touch with.I would just love to understand this even i

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if it doesnt change things.I know for sure that this person is decieveing her husband,sneaking out at night and such,telling her friends that she threw him out ,that he doesnt live there anymore,and she is telling this other girl that she is going to get a apt or house with her.This girl is looking for houses everyday .She tells me that she isnt going to live with her.Who knows she might be decieveing me about that too.I dont think she ever tells the truth.I also knows she lies to her kids.Why does she do this?Is it depression.I dont think you can be free if you have to keep oin this facade.Would this be the beginning of a breakdown?She is 35

Answer 1

sounds to me she doesn't like the life she is leading. Living in a make believe world. She wants something she doesn't have. Also, one who lies, doesn't like themselves toomuch either.
she's not happy with anything.

Answer 2

Some people are compulsive liars and have never told anyone the complete truth in their life. It is a type of addiction at times and once started, it is hard to stop because once a lie is told, another lie has to be told to cover up the first lie and then another lie to cover up the second lie, etc. The cycle cannot be broken by human means alone because humans are born with a nature that makes them want to do what is wrong and once they see that there is no immediate penalty for doing wrong, they continue doing wrong.

This person needs to meet Jesus and ask Him for forgiveness of this and other things she has done wrong. Once she does, she will find that He will make her new (I Corinthians 5:17 says that if anyone is in Christ, the person is a new creation and the old has passed away with the new replacing it.) and the old way of telling lies will stop, though it might take some time to get her out of the habit. Attending a Bible believing church and having fellowship with others of like mind will greatly help her.

Answer 3

Generally because they are lying to themselves. It is easier for her to lie about it then to face the truth. It's sounds like she's lost and really don't know what she's doing. So rather than sound like an idiot and not know what she's doing, she'll pull an answer from the top of her head. Liars also tend to be "nice people". I say nice people because they would rather lie to you than tell you something that might hurt you. So really it all comes down to how this person deals with and perceives reality. Life does tend to jolt our feelings around in which it does change who we are if we aren't strong enough to deal with it. Yes, it does sound like she is stressed and possibly might feels she is losing it. Rather she's lying or not, sounds like she could use someone to talk to. Not to mention, she might not realize how bad she's become. Good Luck & God Bless!