my husband received some text messages from his ex who lives across the street?

Question

and he erased them... she was inviting him out to lunch but he said no. She also calls him when she goes out to let him know that she might call him if she gets too drunk. Has this biitch passed her boundaries ? What should i do? she is married and her husband is away in Iraq. One night they went out with a couple of friends and she also told him that she was on birth control .... why would she tell him that ?

Answer 1

She has definitely over stepped her boundaries. Let your husband know that he needs to tell her in no uncertain terms that she needs to stop ALL contact with him. I realize with her husband away she misses male companionship and her ex is conveniently right across the street. If this is the only way she communicates with your husband (with subtle and not so subtle hints regarding sex), then she needs to stop any kind of communication with him. And your husband needs to let her know that.
Hell, there are plenty of unmarried guys out there if that is what she is looking for.

Answer 2

Yes...I would say this person has crossed the boundaries. Is your husband being honest enough to tell you and show these text messages? I hope so! Give her some business cards of taxi services...or tell your hubby that if she needs a ride home from the club...that you will go get her.I would be a little suspicious of the hubby...just because he has gone out with her and the friends....a girl who has no ill intentions would not tell a married man that she is on birth control...not one with any sort of class, anyway. Do you know her hubby? Maybe you could start chatting with him while he is abroad about his broad. Honestly, though, it is your husband who may have passed a boundary or two...he should know better than to erase messages from another woman...that is sneaky behavior...if he is not hiding anything...he would be showing you these messages.

Answer 3

Everything points out red flags.

She is probably looking to have sex with him as her husband is away. If your husband is being honest with you, and he is really not interested, then you two can work together against her.

First thing to do is for your husband to ask her nicely to stop contacting him, and if she does, to always keep anything that has to do with intimacy out of the picture (like inviting him alone anywhere, or talking about sex, including the pills).

If that doesn’t work, then move to step two. This would be to collect proof. This should be done from the beginning. If she stops contacting him, then you don’t need it, but if she doesn’t, then you can use it. He needs to keep the messages instead of deleting them, and using a camera, take a picture also of his cell phone while showing the messages. This way is clear you guys are not making it up as is easy to forward a fake message so you don’t want to have only the messages but also a picture of them.

If she is very persistent, then your husband should go out at least once with her and tape the conversation. Buy a small tape recorder for this. Many cell phones has a memo recorder too that can be used too. He should not accept anything bad as it would be against him (besides, you would kill him… LOL).

After you have it all, then both of you call her and ask her to stop it right away or there will be actions from your side. She is going to ask, and you just have to say that there is enough proof to get her in trouble.

If she doesn’t stop, you send the proof to her husband, and if needed, you advise her that you will place a restraining order against her and you do it if she doesn’t back off.

Hopefully, she will be smart enough to stop way before all this happens… unless you don’t mind sharing your husband or having a threesome with her and him, you better start acting now!

Answer 4

Boundaries crossed heck she has broken them..

Your husband can only control her not doing this anymore he needs to tell her to leave him alone, he is married and it is not his job to come get her if she drinks too much. Just leave him alone period.

He does not need to take phone calls from her, if you all have caller ID he can not answer the phone or after he has made it clear he will not have anything to do with her and for her to leave him alone then if she calls and he does pick up he should hang up on her..

You could go to her and tell her to back off but all the may do is feed her fire and make things worse. She has no respect for you so why would she respect your idea she backs off? she wont.. If I were you I would hold my head high and not let her know she bothers you in any way.. Come out above her..

You need to tell your husband that you no longer will tolerate this and he must tell her to stop and then ignore her calls and messages and hang up on her.. he can end this.. if she is not getting any attention she will have no reason to continue as long as he gives her any kind of attention good or bad she has a reason to keep doing this.. If he hangs up on her wiht out a word in time she will stop becasue she is not getting what she needs..

Only he can really take care of this and he needs to ASAP..
He is married and does not need this.. I am friends with my EX and his GF but I would never ever call him to come get me, offer lunch unless his GF was there with us or anything his life is seperate of mine and we may be friends now but out of respect for our partners we would never do the above stuff you mention.. if he did ever start this I would ask him to knock it off and if he did not I would just not talk to him anymore there is no reason for me to disrespect the person I am with by allowing that type of behavior..

I wish you luck and keep your head high be better then her do not let her see this may be causing any trouble she may like that too much.

Answer 5

Since your husband seems able to conduct himself like an adult, I would chalk it up to the ex's insecurities and lonliness, and joke about it with your husband if at all possible. She is most definitely overstepping boundaries, and you should let your husband know that you don't appreciate it and that he needs to make her stop. I'm sure her husband in Iraq wouldn't appreciate knowing about her behaviour while he's away on duty.

Answer 6

She wants him 2 have sex w/ her thats y she told him she was on birth control. Someone needs 2 send a nice little letter 2 her husband as well! Yes she has def passed her boundries, I would do everything possible 2 avoid a fight w/ her but 2 let her know thats your husband n he dont want her. If she continues beat her a**!

Answer 7

This woman has definitely crossed the line. You need to take care of this before it gets out of hand. I think u should confront ur husband. He may not be doing anything wrong but he should still know that ur aware of what's goin on. Ur gonna need to talk to this woman too.

Answer 8

SHE HAS WAY CROSSED THE LINE....JUST HEARING ABOUT THAT HAPPENING TO YOU REALLY PISSES ME OFF YOU REALLY SHOULD TALK TO YOUR HUSBAND ABOUT THIS......IF THIS BOTHERS YOU AS MUCH AS IT BOTHERS ME THEN I'D MAKE SURE HE KNOW WHERE THE LINE IS AND THAT HE SHOULDN'T LET HER CROSS THE LINE AND HE NEEDS TO PUT A STOP TO IT AND SOON BEFORE IT GETS OUT OF CONTROL....THEN AGAIN YOU COULD MOVE....I DON'T KNOW HOW YOU LIVE ACROSS THE STREET FROM HIS EX THAT WOULD BE ENOUGH TO MAKE ME CRAZY....GOOD LUCK.

Answer 9

she has passed those boundaries, you should tell your husband to stop communication with her, like not answering her texts or calls.

Answer 10

Yeah, she has definitely crossed boundaries. You need to let your hubby know that this isn't acceptable and she needs to stop.