why dont some men want to get married...they just want to stay with their gf have a kid an whatever?...whats up with that?
2007-03-26 07:56:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Probably the same reasons that some women don't want to get married, they don't want to make that commitment. It has nothing to do with a person's maturity level, and everything to do with how they view marriage will or will not change their current relationships. I strongly disagree that those who don't want to get married are not "real" men or women.
A lot of it does have to do with relationships that they've either seen (parents, friends) or experienced themselves, and why they failed or succeeded. It's a lot easier to marry than to divorce, and it's worlds easier to break up than to divorce. Keeping a marriage only because it's a lot of effort to get end it is a horrible reason to stay.
2007-03-26 08:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage usually comes with the words "'Till death do us part," or "As long as we both shall live." That's a commitment. Most men that don't want to get married realize what that means, and don't want to promise that they'll always be there for the rest of their lives. It's hard enough figuring out if they want to stay with their girlfriend through next week, let alone the rest of their lives.
In my experience, women have a much easier time saying, "'Till death do us part," and not realizing what they're saying. A woman will want to get married, and when you ask her why, she'll say, "I don't know, I just want to know he's serious." Then a year after she ties the knot, she divorces him saying, "Nothing changed when we got married!" Well duh!
Men, on the other hand, kick and screem, all the way to the alter, beg her not to make him do it, and then start to threaten her, and finally say "I do," and then in a year's time are saying, "I knew this would happen! We had a good thing going, then we got married, and you expected me to stop going out with my buddies and stop being who I am."
2007-03-26 08:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some may be selfish, some may genuinely be concerned about divorce.
Women file 2/3rds of all divorces in the US, and not all of them are because of an unfaithful husband. So this flies in the face of the argument that women are more committed to marriage. In fact, once married, it looks like that notion is reversed and men are more committed by a ratio of 2:1 when you look at who is filing for divorce.
Given the current climate in the judicial system, men right perceive that they will not get a fair shake if their wife suddenly wakes up and decides she is not happy and wants to have an affair and/or end the marriage.
You may not be cheat, a quitter or a gold-digger. But there are enough out there that have all but ruined it for others. Much the same way that not all men are selfish sex maniacs. But there are enough out there to make it difficult for "good" men to find good candidates for dating and/or marriage.
2007-03-26 08:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I got married over 20 years ago. My wife and I have two charming, intelligent, beautiful daughters. Our plan is to remain married until death does us part. I am glad I am married, and I wouldn't trade my wife for any other woman in the world.
2007-03-26 08:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 12:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of too many marriages and except for my first college gf never lived with anybody at all without being married - sorry I can't help.
2007-03-26 08:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
because they lack the ability to committ to something as precious as a wife knowing that it is for life. not being married is a loop hole for having a way out when not wanting to deal with the complexity and beauty of marriage. most men with that mindset will never get married as long as a woman continues to provide him sex.
2007-03-26 08:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by bulldog65 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well If were to marry a woman and she did not want to change her name then I would not marry her. If she is going to keep her name then we don't need a piece of paper saying were married. My only exception is if I marry a famous star and they could not change their name because of their celebrity status.
2007-03-26 14:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by G Money 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's the maturity factor. Those guys love to cheat.
2007-03-26 08:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a teenaged boy haaaa
2007-03-26 07:59:36 · answer #10 · answered by peter s 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋