without making any salary or wages, but if a man stays home to be a "Mr. Mom" (cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, etc.) without making any wages or salary, or if the wife makes more money in her job than he does in his job, then the guy is considered to be a bum by everyone, including the court and she can get a divorce for non-support? Is this fair?
2007-03-26 07:42:32 · 22 answers · asked by Captain Cupcake 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know where you're from, but if a wife makes more than her husband he isn't considered a bum, he's considered a good judge of women! As far as the Mr. Mom thing, it is something my wife and I discussed briefly, IF I could work from home and make a salary similar to what I make now. I'm the primary breadwinner but want to write books. We're still figuring it out.
Dont' forget that a parent staying home saves thousands on daycare every year and best yet, provides a nurturing environment for the baby. Doesn't matter which parent.
2007-03-26 11:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This should be something a husband and wife completely agree on and choose who is best suited for which roll. You are only considered a loser if your wife/husband doesn't want you to stay home because your family needs income contribution. If this is a mutual agreement, then it is no one els's concern. As far as a women making more money being an issue that is crazy...Be happy that there is any income at all and thank god to have someone who is not only the love of your life but also succesfull. But never let anyone make you feel like less of a person based on income either.
2007-03-26 07:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mae 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not "Leave it to Beaver" anymore. (1950's family show)
Today's society and the cost of living. Doesn't allow a woman to stay home. So they've had to step out, and go with what life throws them.
Nevertheless.... If the couple has discussed between the two which would be best for there family. Then it doesn't really make a difference if the mommy or daddy stay's home. Just as long as the kids are well balanced, loved, and maintained.
(seen some good "Mr Mom's" that do great for kids)
Think of this... some people stereo-type some women that stay home. As sitting on the couch, watching soaps, and eating bon bon's. So I guess there is a stereo-type to each way you look at it.
But if the person who does stay home, takes care of the kids, and set's the career choice aside. Then it's only fair that the other individual helps take care them, if life doesn't work out.
What's good for the "Goose" is good for the "Gander".
2007-03-26 07:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
God says a man who doesn't provide for his family is worse than a non -believer and the 'wife is to be the keeper of the home', now although many people try to shun God and His word, the consensus will always be people have a conscience for what is right and wrong--and no 'modern day'
thought process can erase the guilt associated with rebellion to God's Word. Men at home are out of place and effeminate.
Also, more small children are sexually abused by their own family's males; fathers, brothers, etc. than by any other person in society. A man should want to go out each day and be the provider.or at least--earn $ from home not live off his lady.
2007-03-26 07:54:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nope, Not fair. But I dont think its ever going to be fair till the man can go into delivery for 3 days and push an object the size of a watermelon, out of something the size of a quarter.
2007-03-26 07:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The idea of a stay-at-home dad is something relatively new but in time it will become more acceptable. I have known two and no one in our social circle had anything bad to say about it. In fact, we celebrated that he could finally quit his hated job because his wife went full time.
2007-03-26 07:48:06 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i don't think its fair at all, my husband stays home well I'm at work. but he works from the home. and makes more money then me..... maybe think about doing some thing like that if you like to be independents, and then your wife wouldnt have anything to say cause your home, your working and helping around the house.
best of luck to you!!
2007-03-26 07:50:32 · answer #7 · answered by me & you 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So long as one parent is able to stay at home and care for the children, it doesn't matter whether it's the man or the woman. If having the man stay home works for your family, that's great. I wouldn't think twice about it.
2007-03-26 07:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
some men who are the 'houseman' taking care of the children do end up getting the child support in a divorce because they are in fact taking care of the children everyday. all children don't necessarily go with mom.
2007-03-26 07:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by Virgo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you look at it. I dont think a mr.mom is a bum at all. I would love for my hubby to stay at home and tAKE CARE OF THE LITTLE ONES.
2007-03-26 07:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋