my boyfriend of 4 years left me 4 months ago 4 another woman we have 1 child nd now im 23 weeks pregnant.were having to go threw mediation to get issues resolved but i still feel though he loves me, i no theyre having problems we just struggle to communicate because she gets on his back when i contact him bout the kids..i still want him home do u think im wasting my time?should i keep waiting?
2007-03-26 07:34:28 · 12 answers · asked by cheekychopz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
He cheated at least once that you know of. You need to be careful that he does not bring home some disease to you if you get back together with him, and you need to go in for couple's counseling. Personally I would not give him another chance. You do need to speak to him about his current girlfriend. You have to be able to communicate with him about your children and she needs to stay out of it. If she cannot handle the fact that you have to talk to him she needs to leave. It sounds like she will be a B**CH to your children if he has them for visitation, so I would make it so he cannot have them overnight if he stays with her.
2007-03-26 07:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well personally i think if he wanted to be home, that he would be home right now, especially while you are pregnant. You probly need him more than ever at this point. And if he is with another woman, and hasn't made the effort to come back yet, then that pretty much lets you know where he stands. Don't let a newborn be what guilts him into coming back home. Cause then it would only be for the kids and neither of you would still be happy, and no matter how young or old they are, kids know when things aren't right. And you don't want that kind of situation for your babies. I wouldn't wait, but i wouldn't move on to someone else either. Take this time to yourself and your kids. Then later on down the road, maybe he will come to his senses and ya'll may be able to work things out, or you may find someone that is better for you.
2007-03-26 07:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by PrettyOnTheInside 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. What on earth is wrong with him to leave a family. Greed and the urge to try something new! I would tell him where to go. He has made his bed, he should go lie in it. He is lucky you let him see his kids. Despite everything, however hard his woman makes it for him when his children are concerned, she needs a slap and he needs to at least put his foot down in that respect. They are his kids for crying out loud! And you deserve upmost respect for carrying them and caring so dearly for them!
I am going through a breakup with my partner at the mo. At 37 weeks pregnant and about to move in to our new house together, I just found out he had been with his ex for nearly a year and at first i felt so heartbroken and upset that he could do such a thing. Now everyday i wake up and feel more and more angry at the toad. I conclude that if he did love me and even now when he says he wants me, he truly doesnt, well definately not enough that i deserve.
You should ask yourself, do you want this man back for your childrens sake particularly? Cause if so then believe me your children are happy enough with just you. You sound like an excellent mum and a strong one who deserves much better then him.
Dont be scared going through this pregnancy without him there either, You will be ok and it will make you stronger.
I can never get back with my partner because i know i will never trust him and would deep down despise him for what he has done to me.
If you do get back with him, i wish you all the best and hope you can be happy.
Whatever the decsion, it will be the right one for you at the time x
2007-03-26 08:12:51 · answer #3 · answered by alexa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already have one kid together and he still left? Then I would think having another would only drive him further away. Forget about his sorry ***. For the sake of you and your children don't let him back into your life. Maybe he could have contact with the kids when he decides to grow up and become an adult.
2007-03-26 07:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on you and your baby.
A man who leaves you when you're pregnant is not a man. You deserve better. If he comes back....slam the door in his face. You dont want that kind of volatility in a relationship or as an example for your child!
2007-03-26 07:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 20:36:44 · answer #6 · answered by lewan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant with his child and he's off with another woman, I don't think there is much hope. If he loved you, he would want to support you now. Don't count on him to come back, sorry.
2007-03-26 07:39:46 · answer #7 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are wasting your time. But if he wants to go back to you there is nothing ou can do to make him. You just have to let him do it on his own. If he does come back you better get him tested....
2007-03-26 07:38:47 · answer #8 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt worry about him, worry about you and that baby of yours. To much stress is not good for the baby, he doesnt know what hes missing, if he leaves you while you are pregnant you dont need him anyway, i know its hard but you have to do whats best for you and the baby.
2007-03-26 07:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and your children deserve sooo much better!! Who's to say he wont just up and leave again when you need him most? He already has proved that he is capable of it !!
2007-03-26 07:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋