You are always taught to respect your elders especially your parents. I have a almost 15 year old daughter that I told her that was crap. Just because I'm her mother she should not automatically respect me, what if I beat her every day? I really wouldn't deserve any respect. I told her to get respect you have to give it & we have a great relationship. Does anyone else agree with my logic?
2007-03-26 07:27:44 · 12 answers · asked by gitsliveon24 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Daddy-Of course I would help the elderly & if my daughter ever did drink, she would lose my respect but that what she doesn't want. She's earned it & until she does something wrong she'll keep it
2007-03-26 08:12:32 · update #1
A little extreme for me. No grey areas there , like if you see someone accosting an elderly person you don't even say anything? If you see an elderly person struggling to get across a busy street you don't help them? If you see an elderly person struggling to get something off a grocery shelf you don't help? You don't beat your daughter and neither do I beat my children, but, the few times that they have been out partying all night and give me or their mother a "load of crap" on the morning after "hangover ritual " I will lower the boom on them because I will not allow them to talk to me like one of their party buddies. Every logic comes with consequences. Don't you agree?
2007-03-26 07:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Lisa, I've got to disagree with you there. I was taught to respect my elders, not to the point of eternal deference of course (otherweise I'd be a Republican right now...ack ack ack...) but to be polite to the elderly and those older than I; to listen with respect, not to interupt, hold the doors open for them, etc etc...and that something I really think each child should be taught from day one at home.
I do understand what you mean but to a point. Society today is severely lacking in ordinary manners. No, I'm not accusing you nor your beautiful daughter but Society in general. Indeed you are correct that to get respect you should give respect; but in there some where is that fine line between parent and freind....and I still don't trust that line. Blessings on you and your daughter.
2007-03-26 15:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree 100% but you know one thing you could be the worse parent in the world and your kid will still love you it,s built in and your right if you want respect you have to give it even to our kids but our kids have to respect us I am having a problem with one of my girls she does not respect my opinion on who she is dating and it has caused us to drift apart well caused her to drift away from me but I wont change my mind on this one thing so I guess we may never talk again she is 20 years old I know she is grown but I am her father and she pick this clown over me she hung the phone up in my face and we have not talked in a year it hurts but I will not talk to her until she comes to me like a young woman and apologizes to me oh by the way she had a baby in the mean time by this looser and everything I told her that was going to happen has happen all bad I,m sorry but I had to get that out
2007-03-26 14:42:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes respect should be earn but still it depends on if the parent is a good person. By the way if she is seeking religion just let her seek it on her own. I'm glad to hear u both have a good relationship.
2007-03-26 14:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I actually agree with you gitsliveon24..... the reason being is because respect is earned... not given.... if you have done nothing to have her earn your respect, then she should not have to respect you.... since you are a great person, and you are very caring... I don't see a reason why she wouldn't respect her...
2007-03-26 20:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that respect is earned and not a right. But you should also follow up with a lesson in how to tell the difference and lessons in basic civility and manners.
2007-03-26 14:34:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I’d say there is a difference between feeling respect for someone, and actually treating them with respect.
You may not respect a casual stranger because you don’t know them, but it is good practice to treat them with respect anyway. That is, unitl they give you a reason not to respect them.
So, it is like being considered innocent until proven guilty. Show respect for everyone until they prove they are unworthy of your respect.
Once you know someone, it makes no sense to show respect to that person if they act rotten, no matter what their age.
2007-03-26 14:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by prefrontal.cortex 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep, people should not expect respect from everyone younger than them for that reason alone. You have to earn respect as does everyone else.
I completely agree with you. I have absolutely no respect for my step-grand parents, they are evil hateful people and dont deserve respect from anyone.
2007-03-26 14:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree. Here is what God says about it.
Ephesians 6:1-4, Paul tells us, Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother--which is the first commandment with a promise--" that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.
2007-03-26 14:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by 4HIM- Christians love 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah, but still she can't treat you like crap and you can't treat her like crap. It's best to be mutual with eachother. But you still need to be treated like the mom and not just one of her friends at school. Because thats when you have troubles with her obeying you.
2007-03-26 14:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Kendra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋