did or do your parents smack you for bad behaviour?

Question

this is for kids and young teens

do you get smacked if you misbehaive

did you used to

if you do or you used to how do you feel about it


is it affective is it a good punishment
if you used to what age were you when you had your last smack
i smack...
i ask because i want to no how the child feels about it

if you say you do get smacked how old are you

if you smack your kids how old do you smack up to

if you used to get smacked how old where you when you had your last smack

Answer 1

at first my real dad just punished me, all i did was sit in that room thinking of ways to not get caught , then my mom divorced him and my step dad got out the belt and beat my *** when i screwed up, i learned my lesson real fast, i love my real dad but my step dad set me straight, i even got one from my principle when i was 17

Answer 2

Well My Parents Called It a Woop'n. Where When I Waz Young If I Misbehaved Badly Then My Dad or Sometimes Mom Would Go Get a Belt And Woop Me.It Hurt Me So Bad Like I Would Alwayz Run Into My Room And Cry & Ask Why They Did That.But It's Actucally Taught Me Not To Do Thoughs Things I DId THen & Now SInse I'm 14,I Sometimes Aksed My Wild * Crazy Friends If They Gotton a Woop'n & They Said No. So I'm Guessing You Have a Little Bit More Of Comonsense When You Do Get a Woop'n Then Compared to When You Didn't.

Hope This Helps,
Jay Tay :]

Answer 3

I know you want teens to answer but I wanted to put in my 2 cents. For the record, I was smacked on the bum and on the hands for certian things until I was olenough to understand what and why I shouldn't do something. Children at certain ages do not reason and cannot undrstand certain things. The best example I can give is : a young toddler runs into a busy street, the parent pulls them back and yells starts acting like a uncontrolled ape yelling words the child does not understand, do you think the child will do it again? You bet they will. A child who gets a spanking will make the direct connection that "if I run into the street I will get spanked". They do not care if they make mom & dad mad (sometimes that's fun) and they don't know the concept of death or severe pain to scare them from going to the road. So, I remember clearly that I got spanked (and spanked hard sometimes). But It stopped at about the age of about 5; (now begining to go from my experience as a child to my professional opinion) depending on what the issue was and the cognitive ability of the child. If you could talk to them, and be effective than do it; if it's something beyond thier comprehension level than a spank may be in order. Being a social worker with a Child Development and Family Studies degree I concur that this to be the truth and best advise on the subject that I can give. It is always a parent's prerogative but please pay attention to the intent and outcome of each incident. Always be fine tuning your parenting skills, as children change so do the rules. Always remind a child (every time) you love them and are trying your best to protect/teach them, even if that means a smack on the bum. From my experience I hated it when I it was happening, but I grew up knowing that my parents loved me because otherwise they would have "let me play in the road" so to speak.

Answer 4

Yes, I was smacked when I behaved badly. Currently I am 14, but haven't been smacked since I was 12 or so. (But that's just because I've wised up and now I don't do anything deserving of smacking. Trust me, if I screwed up enough, my mom would smack/spank me.)

But anyways, I think it is effective to smack, and it's not child abuse as long as it is used conservatively. My mom would give me a quick smack on the cheek if I was disrespectful, and would spank me (with underwear on, in private) if I did anything reaaaally bad.

I think that it's alright to smack. Just don't overdo it...and only smack with the hand...no belts, no pans, no paddles, etc.

Answer 5

I was very rarely smacked but the threat was there.I remember once being given a smack for giving my mother's Sunday lunch to next door's dog. I never did that again.
Smacks are very effective as long as they're used sparingly and reasonably.Smacking for every trivial misdemeanour and over-violent smacking is wrong.As long as the child knows there is a chance of a smack if they cross over the limit then they will keep within the limit.Some of today's children know all that will happen is either missing their TV program or sitting on the 'naughty step' (I ask you!!).
Some schoolchildren will actually tell a teacher to his face.."Can't touch me..I'll sue and tell my mum/dad."
Today's parents would listen to their 'little Johnny' who would NEVER swear at a teacher and go to school and complain.
If I swore at a teacher (I never would) and got a clout and went home and told my Dad..he would say I probably deserved it (he might even give me another one.)
My parents were loving and NEVER abusive but used a smack / threat of as a deterrent. Kids these days are being spoilt by PC parents.

Answer 6

You know i do get smacked for "bad" behavior what ever that means but you know i dont believe it is a very good or effective punishment because there are other forms or ways of punishing a child than smacking them upside the head and saying No. In that case your treating your child like a dog and i dont like it at all...and the last time i got smacked was a couple of days ago for not cleaning the ******* house even though the house is clean....omg that pisses me off....

Answer 7

Yes, my aprents used to wallop us when we were younger (I'm 45) but only when we had exhausted the three-strikes-and-you're-out theory (which consisited of our entire name, first, first and middle, whole name). Then the punishment fit the crime : a couple smacks across the backside with the hand, five if we were very naughty (beleive me, Mama had a hard hand), grounded a whole day up in your room to a whole week which meant you could come down for the bathroom and for meals but that was it(really bad on summer days (there was no nintendo and no tv) or worse, a week over at the grandparents or uncle's farm at hard labour...that'll work you hard. And never ever say you're bored.....
We knew our parents loved us and that we were being naughty. I punished my children the same way with the same rules and consequesnces (sans the farms unfortunately) My children have never doubted I love them and the last time I spanked on of them was ten years ago when the youngest (who was in a lot of trouble at the time) told me he was too big to be spanked and the last time I slapped one of them was when the same child swore at me. He's never done it since, bless him, but I do use the Mom-Voice still. I swear you never stop using that.

Answer 8

I'm not a Teenager, but I wanted to help with this question.

I got spanked as a child, and as a teen. At the time I hated it, as most kids will answer.... though do I think I"m better off for it? Definately. I know a few people who are my age whose parents used more "progressive" means of parenting, you know, never telling a child no, fostering destructive behaviour because it's "self expression" -- Those kids are now in Jail where as I own my own home, car, am happilly married in a committed heterosexual realationship.

I believe in spanks upto a certain age, but when the child is old enough to understand property and privledge, (( around 12 ish)) It's time to put away the spanking and move to removing privledges or giving them extra chores that are dificult and unpleasant like cleaning out gutters, taking away allowance (( big one )) dog doos stuff like that.

Answer 9

My mother rarely smacks/spanks me, but when she does, it is because I have been doing something really bad. But I do not consider it to be an effective punishment because it just makes you mad and you want to do something to get back at your parents for hitting you. And I don't think it is right to hit your kids because there are other ways of punishment that don't hurt or cross any boundaries, and are more effective. Keeping them home from a friends house or something that they really want to do is a lot more effective, because the pain of being slapped wear off, but you regret missing a party or something for weeks. I don't think that I have had a tantrum since like, last year when, twice in a row, I got grounded from a friends house. And, to make matters worse for me, my twin got to go over to her friends house and they went to a baseball game.

And hitting your kids makes them think that it is okay to hit others when they are mad. I don't think anyone has the right to cause another person pain, (unless it is self-defense) even if it is their parents. Plus, it may cause them to fear you and not want to be around you.

Well, this is my point of view, and I am 13.

Answer 10

Smacked in the abuse sense of the word, NO
Popped in the mouth , HECK YEAH
But in all honesty, had my parents not DEMANDED respect in the first place, I wouldnt respect them as much as I do now.
Apparently effective though seeing as how it only took 4 times, MY ENTIRE LIFE, for me to get it. Now that Im a mom myself, I do the same to my two oldest. I dont abuse my children in ANY way, but I do make them obey and ABOVE all else be respectful. My mother seems to think that I am too strict with them, but I do not allow rebellion or disrespect in any shape, form, or fashion. God has entrusted me with their lives, the least I can do is make them the BEST that they can be.
What would I tell God if he said, "I gave these children to you as a blessing. Why did you not care for them and GUIDE them in the manner in which I have commanded?"

Personally, I dont want my answer to be, " Ummm, I dunno..."
Sit and think on it. Are they doing that to you to teach you morals and values, or just because they "dont understand you?"

Answer 11

I got spankings when I was a kid, but I don't really remember what I felt about it. The way my dad puts it, you have associate bad behavier with pain, so that you wont do it again. I do belive in spankings- but not to the extent of abuse where you are leaving marks. Society today scrutinizes it too harshly, I think. Some kids don't care about "time outs" or "grounding", Don't get me wrong, once I was in high school, I know I was a bit too old for spankings so I definitly got my fair share of groundings.