How do you confront a person who thinks anger is the only form of communication to get his/her point across?

Answer 1

I would make a simple direct statment, such as..........
It seems you appear to be angry alot. Just let the person respond while attempting not to judge the individual. Something may be going on in their life you have no idea about. A simple statment may open something up for everyone to grow from.

Answer 2

Let's be clear, anger is not wrong or bad. What's bad is when we do hurtful things out of anger. Even the Bible tells us in the book of James that we are to be angry, but not sin. Anger happens, what do we do with that anger is what is good or bad.

First you check to see if you are making a situation where that person feels (rightly or wrongly) that anger is the only way that he gets heard.

Now, before you tune out and thumbs-down this, hear me out, please.

If this person shared an opinion or a complaint in a respectful manner and you blew him off, thinking he was worried about something that he shouldn't worry about, then you have already sent the message that polite and respectful communication is not heard.

Let's take the issue of a credit card. Let's say that debt really bothers him and he has shrared that being in debt and not being able to pay off the credit cards in full each month really bothers him. You look at him and say it's no big deal and keep on spending, perhaps even more.

Well, was he heard? Nope.

So after a few months or years, he goes from being polite, to being rather irritated to angry.

What message did he get? That being polite was ineffective.

I'm not saying anger is right. However, in many cases, the reason a person feels that anger is the only way to get their point across is because we have demonstrated that polite and respectful attempts don't work, or we have minimized their point of view, expecting them to adopt our point of view, instead of working to find a solution that both can agree upon.

I'm not saying that's your situation, but it's possible that is how he got so angry.

If not, then I hope this helps someone where this scenario does apply.

If the person is just angry, even after you have done everything humanly possible to listen and validate what they've said. Then you simply set the boundary that you will not communicate with someone who will not protect you from their anger.

Answer 3

Does this person start out angry or does something set them off? Being non-confrontational would be a good idea. Speak calmly and gently, and respond with logic where anger responds with emotion. Writing a letter would not allow for any confrontation, either. Email!

Answer 4

confront is a strong word and it makes it almost equal to the 'anger' he/she exhibits. just 'talk' nicely and communicate to get the point across when she/he is calm. suggest him/her seeing some therapist or don't react to the anger when it's under going. anger issue is prevalent and it's a life trap. it takes a lot of understanding to figure out that person and fix the problems. i would suggest some psychological books for him/her also. like jeffrey young's books. good luck!

Answer 5

People with anger problems ( and anger is more of a problem than an "issue") need to be eliminated from your consciousness because they are infantile, at best, and dangerous at the worst-- don't say 'goodbye', just go away-- fast-- forever. And look into getting a restraining order.

Answer 6

I would try and not be confrontational about it. Just try and explain that anger isn't the way to be...give the examples of when they were angry etc...if this type of thing doesn't work, then I wouldn't try to help the situation anymore. It's one of those things "you didn't break it, you can't fix it".

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Wow. My lifes story with my father.

I tried it all. Calm, Screaming and everything in between.

Then I walked away one day and decided F it. Three years later he was ready to talk because every time he tried to scream I would say see you soon dad I love ya. Eventually he realized that as much as I love him I would not tolerate that type of treatment.

It might not work for ya but it did for me.

Answer 9

The best thing is 2 stay away from them @ all costs. However, if you can't avoid it.. you simply make it clear that you can n will defend yourself if u have 2 but that u have no intentions of fighting w/ them.

Answer 10

Try a diffrent approch like calmly talking and trying to remain calm during.