I am currently talking to this guy named Quentin. We have been talking for a month now, and he's already in love with me. Well, yesterday I found out from my cousin, who is a guy and is gay that him and Quentin had sexual relations months back. Not only with him but several other dudes where I live. Then I also found out that he is married. I know his wife because we went to school together. He says he is going to leave her after she has the baby ( yes she is pregnant) but I might be also. I am so confused right now. Her baby is due in June, and I may have one on the way. What should I do. I am worried about my baby's future and hers as well but what to do about him and his past? This is hard for me, but I just don't know anymore.... Please help!!!
2007-03-26 07:07:29 · 20 answers · asked by sassyfox2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Leave him. He won't leave his wife (they never do) and he seems to have committment issues. If he's cheating on her, do you think he'll stay with you?
2007-03-26 07:11:51 · answer #1 · answered by Cobalt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from that dude as much as possible, he may or may not be "in love" w/ you. He could've told that 2 a number of people. Well if you cannot accept the fact that he's obviously bi, then you should jus break it off now while your ahead there's no reason 2 stay w/ someone who has so much going on in their lives n who has sexual relations w/ that of the same gender. If he's sleeping w/ several different men or has done so in the past, what makes you think he isn't still having those sexual activites 2 this day? Also, if he isn't careful he could give you some kinda disease. If your pregnant, then you've already made one mistake since you barely know this guy. It's up2 you but I would walk away while I was ahead.
2007-03-26 14:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this is not a secret but a mess
and why did you not use a condom this guy seems to have an appointment with STD
hope that you are not pregnant at least not by him
and don't worry about the wife let her take care of her own business just pray that God protect her from her promiscuous husband
2007-03-26 14:32:13 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You played with a married man and you are only thinking about the consequences now that they are affecting you. You are acting like most "mistresses"....this guy made you feel really special (and you might be)..but any cheater goes out of his/her way to make you feel this way because they want to keep you available for their own special needs. Girl---you go burned!!! And if you actually knew this guy was married before you laid down with him...then I guess in a way ---you asked for it. Now on top of all this you find out he is on the down low...damn girl---you need a blood test and then some.
I think you need to confirm whether or not you are pregnant...be kind enough to let his wife know what a piece of crap her hubby is (for the sake of her health and their children) and make some decisions about which direction you are going to live your life. If you are pregnant...you need to only concern yourself with that...hopefully this man has not given you something like A.I.D.S. that can be passed on to his unborn children that would be the true tragedy. I wish you luck!!!
2007-03-26 15:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave that bastard right now! who have a pregnent wife at home waiting 4 him.Who knows that oneday he will not leave u n d baby same like this?? just forget it.
If u can take care of d baby urself then u have to b very daring coz baby needs father n mother together, no matter how much u love d baby he/she will allways miss the word father' in their life.So for me d best 4 u to abort.I know it sounds bad but trust me its 4 ur n d baby's future.
2007-03-26 14:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by sherry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that your day is worse than mine. If you're not pregnant, run as fast as you can, and if you are, you have a lot to think about and many decisions to make, but I would not include this sexually confused and cheating jerk in mine or my baby's life. Think about it........this guy has a lot of issues that you may not be able to help him deal with.
2007-03-26 14:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you would be better off trying to raise the child on your own. If he already is having those types of issues in his life, all he will do to you is the same thing he has been doing to his wife, and it will cause you and your child many problems in the long run.
2007-03-26 14:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by punkxrocker3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go get a pregnancy test. Second don't sleep with him anymore, he may have aids. Homosexual men are oneof the highest carriers of HIV. Third, leave that idiot along, he is only thinking of himself. If you are pregnant with his baby his wife deserves to know.
2007-03-26 14:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by LittleLady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet would be to end contact with him immediately. This guy sounds like trouble. I wouldn't take his phone calls or respond to his emails. If you do run into him, simply tell him you know he is married and you do not want to get involved. Stay away from him or there will be horrible consequences.
2007-03-26 14:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he had many things in the closet. I hope your not pregnant, but if you are just take responsibility. You need to leave this guy sounds like he has way too much baggage for you.
2007-03-26 14:12:02 · answer #10 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW.... Ok. First of all, you need to confirm your pregnancy. MAKE SURE YOU ARE. If you are, then you need to talk to him, and confront him with everything you know. Also, if you arent, I suggest getting out of this fast. He already has one girl pregnant... You do NOT want to be the other momma. Good luck
2007-03-26 14:45:51 · answer #11 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋