I have been been trying to contact him for months, he wont return calls and will not take any calls. I need his consent to take take the kids to the Bahamas for a family reunion. The kids are all hyped about the trip and the trip is paid for and i cannot get a refund ($2000). What should I do here. I know he is using his power ( shared custody) to not do it, but he isnt hurting anyone but the kids. And of course my pocket. It has taken me 9 months to pay for this. What should i do and will taking him to court do me any good. If court is the option what can can i do ( i cant afford an attorney at such short notice)
2007-03-26 07:02:46 · 3 answers · asked by !@#$$ 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
We were never married. We share custody( went to court for that) . he has visitation that he hasnt used in 2 yrs. He pays child support. and he is an asshole
2007-03-26 07:14:16 · update #1
The kids are 10 and 12 yrs old.
2007-03-26 07:15:54 · update #2
The kids are 10 and 12 yrs old. And let me add that when he asked me to take the kids on the same type of trip out the country, I AGREED , NO PROBLEMS
2007-03-26 07:18:37 · update #3
We need more information. How long have you been divorced? How old are the kids? Was the divorce ugly? Was there a custody fight? The truthful answer to these questions will help in formulating an answer. Ok thanks for the update.
Well you could send him a certified letter detailing your plans. Because he does not exercise visitation, you could have a case in court. I would file a pro se suit against him in family court. That means that you act as your own attorney. It may take a few months to get to court and get a decision. Make sure that you document, document, document. Present a clear and reasonable case. As a side note, you can just do it and risk being in contempt of court. I would have to say that the likelyhood of a serious penalty against you would be slim to none.
2007-03-26 07:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by JAY O 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would send him a letter stating that you have been trying to reach him and have been unable to and ask him really nicely if he'll sign for the passports. Assure him that the children will be returning to the US and that you will give him all of the contact information while you are out of the country. Tell him how much it would mean to the children to be able to attend and that it would be really good for them to know their relatives. Be super sweet and lovely and non-threatening and in the meantime contact your department of social services and the court to see if someone can intervene. Also, have the children ask their father and grandparents about the trip and make sure that they let them know how excited they are to go and how they're looking forward to visiting with their father when they get back. It can't hurt to try and it may work.
2007-03-26 07:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Susan G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They are his kids, and he has the right to not allow them out of the country.
Just because you are divorced, doesn't mean you get the sole say in the parenting of your children.
Fathers have rights too.
2007-03-26 07:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋