I spent alot of time looking for rings and trying to plan things. Now when i bring up the subject he comes up with reasons why we cant get married. I feel stupid and confused. I've heard so many excuses. Should i just not ever bring it up again and see what happens?
2007-03-26 07:02:39 · 9 answers · asked by marissa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He might thing it's all to much at one time. With you and now a 7month old baby. I think he just not ready for "marriage" how you want him to be. And he might not be ready for years to come. Can you handle that. Your going to have to. You have a baby now and the one thing that baby needs most is mom and dad together. If I was you I wouldn't mentioned it for at least other year don't bother him with it. Men don't like being nag by a women. You need to educate your self on relationships and am not saying your dumb but we all need help I know I did, and that's not saying your dumb. Dr. Laura C. Shlessinger has wrote many books about relationships she has really good one ten stupid things couples do to mess up their relationships.
2007-03-26 07:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is something that isn't right here, & the best thing you need to do is TALK... communacation is the only way you are going to find out why he asked you to marry him & now doesnt want it anymore. Maybe he's worryed, or afraid, maybe he has issues he needs to clear up with himself, anything could be the factor with this & the only way to get it resolved is to just talk about it. Ask him out right, tell him you want an honest anwer & not an excuse. Plain & simple. Whenever there was a problem in the past, I would avoid asking my husband about it, that led to nothing but problems, we learned that talking about whats bothering you is the best way to resolve the problem. I do wish you the best of luck & hope you get things settled. Take care.
2007-03-26 14:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not ready for that. I don't think you can force someone into that commitment if they are not ready. It's just going to turn into problems down the road. It's your call, to wait, or go on with your new family alone. I'm a guy, and I can tell you, from my point of view, don't force it. If you truly want to marry this guy and you are both in love, it's going happen at some point. Spend your time making things comfortable and happy with the relationship for now.
2007-03-26 14:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by Just be you. Go for the stars! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
did he proposed or you did because you mentioned spending a lot of time looking for ring
This is where you have gone wrong if he proposed than he should be the one looking for rings
now you are runing around making a fool of your self
take care of your child and yourself
explain to him that you do want to get married since he has proposed you assumed that he wanted the same thing
and if he is not he needs to make it clear so you can decide what you want for your future
Good luck
2007-03-26 14:11:24 · answer #4 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No. Leave him and look after your baby. You should feel stupid (you said it, not us!). How silly you were to put the cart before the horse, now you have a baby to boot! Not very mature.
Time to smarten up, get mature FAST and make a life for you and your baby by yourselves.
2007-03-26 17:13:59 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him an ultimatum, don't let him treat you that way, he's trying to see how much he can get away with,
some girl will snag him if he's worth it.--you give in to him now- then someday he meets another girl and marries her 2 months into the relationship. i read about one girl living w/her B.F. he went away one weekend and came back Monday with a new wife!
2007-03-26 14:36:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get to the bottom of why his feelings have changed. There is a problem here you need to clear up.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 14:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by mykidsrsaints 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, just set a date on your own and tell him its going to be your way or the highway. Make sure to tell him all he has to do is show up.
2007-03-26 14:06:32 · answer #8 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no, wait until he gets good and drunk and bombard him with all your stupid questions...
that should get pretty interesting!!!
2007-03-26 14:10:36 · answer #9 · answered by Chris P 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋