How did you find out you were gay?

Answer 1

Well, I knew I wasn't like the other kids by age 6. I didn't want to throw spitballs. I didn't care about big wheels. I was smart, I read. I cared when younger kids cried. But knowing that this difference was "gay" came in late latency/ early puberty when I became fascinated with men, and SEARS underwear models, and eventually naked men at the gym. I even remember finding one of dad's playboys... it had Barbi Benton in it. (THATS how old I am lol). I just sort of thought "oh, that's the girl from Hee Haw", where as my friends were all nuts about her.

Answer 2

When i look back at it, I never really found out. It was the way i had always felt. I just did not know what to call it when i was growing up, as most of the people around me were with women, I had my feelings for men, and somewhere i knew it won't be a good idea to talk about it to anyone. Then I read an article. Till then i thought i was the only one on this planet who felt like it. It was the article that told me i could call myself gay from then on. So, basically i never "found" out i was gay. I just found the word "gay".

Answer 3

I have always been attracted to other guys as long as I can remember. I can clearly recall a "crush" on an older boy when I was in 1st grade. But since I was raised believing that "homosexuals" were dirty old men who molested boys, and I knew that was not me, I didn't connect being "gay" with my feelings for guys until college. All through school, all my fantasies were about guys- celebs, classmates I found hot, or whomever. Even when I feel in love with another guy when I was 16 I didn't connect my feelings to being gay because I was most definatly NOT they kind of person my family had described a homosexual person to be. My best friend and a cousin 1 year older and I would talk about cute boys but no connection. Then at 18 and in college, a friend told me I was gay. She connected the dots for me and pointed out that since I was not attracted to women, and that since all my fantasies and erotic dreams centered around men, I was gay. And then she taught me that there were as many different ways to be "gay" as there were gay/lesbian/bisexual people. She also taught me that sexuality is "fluid" and that to lable myself was to confining. But if asked, I do claim "gay/homosexual".

Answer 4

I think the defining moment for me is when I realized I had a crush on my best friend (who obviously was a male) around the time I was 13 or 14.

I would get insanely jealous if he wanted to hang out with other guys and not spend time with me, which was odd considering I had many other male friends and could care less what they did in their spare time.

When we stayed over at each other's houses, I would sometimes fantasize about getting into the same bed with him, stuff like that.

I remember working up the nerve once actually to refer to him as sexy, but that was back when the word "sexy" was slang at our school for awesome or very cool, so my personal meaning of it went unnoticed.

I didn't know I was gay back then; I didn't know what to make of it honestly, never having these types of feelings for anyone else before. I can look back now though at the ripe old age of 21 (hehe) and safely say that he was my first crush. Sure I had plenty of friends, both male and female, but he was the special one that made me feel immortal whenever I was around him.

Answer 5

when i was ten years younger, i was five then, i knew i was different from the rest of the boys. I rather play and chill with girls, but i enjoyed playing games with the boys too. But as i grew older and getting little crushes, i always had them for the boys and never for the girls, wierd much. then i grew a little older and guys can tell when they're happy. I got that for the guys only. but i dated a few girls and it just wasn't for me. But then i dated a guy and it was the best thing i ever did. i loved it and i still wanna date guys till this very day. I love guys. and i guess i always knew, even though some people would consider my past as one of the factors for being gay, but i highly doubt that.

Answer 6

I always knew.
Well I always knew I was different than the other girls I grew up with. I didn't know the name for why I felt different until around puberty/Middle School age.
I never liked to pretend who I would marry, I didn't like to suppose how many kids I would have. I didn't like to play "house." But I loved dress-up, I liked my dolls...etc. BUT I also liked to climb trees, ride my dirt bike, skateboard, and get into snowball fights with the boys!
I got into everything that both girls and boys got into.
I didn't ACCEPT being gay until much later in life. I had already been married and divorced and had a young son.

Answer 7

My psychiatrist told me. I was in denial until then. It was quite upsetting at the time. The human mind is an amazing device. I was always more interested in guys than gals, and liked to read articles about homosexuality, made out with gals but only went to bed with guys, but was reluctant to give myself the label, hoping I guess that I could be some kind of unique creature. Even then, I got married (for many reasons), hoping I would rise to the occasion and fulfill my "husbandly duties." But it didn't work out that way. You are what you are.

Answer 8

born that way as long as 1 can remember i always was gay when i was a boy i like other boys same as a teen and now as adult gay gay gay

Answer 9

I always knew that i was attracted to other guys and not girls, I didn't actually fully understand and realize that I was gay untill I was around 14.

Answer 10

I knew i was gay even before puberty. I acted like a boy but I always had more girlfriends thane male only one before puberty. and he is still my friend. At puberty it became more even more obvious to me and it sent me into a spiral of depression and denial.