this is what i want in life. it's a weird dream i know, but it's what i want. i want to live on a small farm in Tennessee. not a big one, maybe 5 -7 acres. a farmhouse and a barn. maybe a few gardens for fresh veggies and a milkcow and chickens, maybe a pig. i would stay at home with the kids ( i want a lot, some of my own, but i want to foster care and adopt . i want at least 12 - 16 kids total). and we'd mind the farm while my husband worked out of the home. my husband would want as many kids as me and would have a good job to support us. this is what i picture myself doing (i'm 15 right now). is this weird. considering where this world is going, what are the odds of this actually happening? do you think ther's a man out there who would want the same thing? what should i major in at college? my parents don't want me to marry a redneck, they say rednecks treat their wives like trash. is their a difference between a redneck and a country boy? please answer any or all questions. thanks!
2007-03-26 06:40:36 · 8 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sounds like you know what you want, and it sounds nice.
If you want it to happen and work for it, it will happen.
There is a man out there who'll want the same thing, you just have to look.
College probably won't be necessary if your goal is to be a mother working on a farm, but if you want to go, then just study whatever really interests you.
A country boy is just a rural kid. A redneck only wears overalls (as in, ONLY overalls on his body) only drinks beer, has sixteen shotguns on the wall and thinks KFC is fine dining. It won't be too hard to find a good man.
Good luck with your life.
2007-03-26 06:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow. What you want is a noble thing, and there is nothing wrong at all for wanting that. Is it realistic? Not very much. Not because it isn't possible, but because the odds of being able to live on a farm with the scenario that you described, with that many children, would take all the energy and resources out of you just to be able to manage the farm - especially without your husband's help, since he will be working at a very good job which will be able to support you. It takes a lot of hard work to keep even the smallest of farms running. It takes a tremendous amount of work to be a stay-home-mother to 1 or 2 children, let alone 12-16 kids.
Now add to the fact that you want to find a man who has the same ideals as you, and you are asking for a lot. Most men I know of do not want that many kids. Many men are happy to work while their wife stays home with the children - but 12-16 kids? The likelihood of finding a guy who wants that many children is very slim. Just feeding that many kids and providing clothing, medical care, presents for birthdays and Christmas, and other things that kids need, will mean that any man will have to make an extremely good living at his job in order to provide for his family. If you are talking about living on a rural farm, then the odds of your husband finding such a good job anywhere close by this rural community is very rare. He would have to commute a long distance to a big city, where there are greater job prospects. This would mean that he would be away from home for several hours a day between working and commuting. When you do see him, he will be exhausted from working hard outside the home and you will be exhausted from working so hard at the home between farm duties and all your children.
I believe your parents are correct in that rednecks do treat their wives like trash. That doesn't mean a country boy will do that. That all said, I believe that if you dream of living on a farm and having a few children while your husband has a good job to support you, it can certainly be done. You will just need to modify your expectations a bit. You might want to consider a piece of land, rather than a farm, with a few acres that do not need tending to but can be wild and free. Have a few animals if you want, but realize that it takes a lot of money to buy feed and grain for these animals, as well as to provide adequate veterinary care. I would consider having 2-6 kids at most for the simple fact that I am the youngest of 6 kids and my wonderful mother had her hands full with all of us, and she did NOT live on a farm. The older kids even helped out with the younger kids and it was STILL hard. It is possible to have a quiet homelife in the country in Tennessee or any other place for that matter, while you stay home to care for the house and kids and your husband works outside of the home. These are reasonable and feasible things you can do. I would focus on that, since it is on a smaller scale than what you are thinking of, and then if things work out and seem to be moving along without difficulties, then you can progress to more. You would also be wise to continue your education and think of a career in addition to this because you may or may not find a husband (it doesn't always happen), and even if you do, in today's times, he could easily get laid off of his job and you might need your income to supplement his or take place of his if something should happen.
Best of luck to you. I am a mother myself of a teenager and I understand where your parents are coming from. I also remember what it was like to be your age and I too had my ideal goals for life. There is nothing wrong with your goals. They are valid. Just consider that when your parents say what they say, they are not doing it to be critical, but rather they are speaking from life experience and out of love because they want you to be happy.
2007-03-26 06:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the math on what it really costs to support 12 - 16 kids. The farm is the easy part; that's cheap. Getting a job that'll support a family that size while you're living on a farm in Tennessee? Close to impossible.
2007-03-26 06:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-02 20:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too many children. They're gonna grow up to be really messed up. I guess if you want that you can achieve it but it is really weird. Oh well. No matter how weird it is, you're going to go for it anyway so what difference does it make? Good luck with that although I really don't recommend having 16 children.
2007-03-26 06:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dido 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that's definitely not weird and who gets to say otherwise anyway. Your dream seems lovely to me and i think there will be plenty of guys willing to share it with you. But you are still young and maybe your dreams will change so don't go rushing into anything just yet.
I wish you all the best!
2007-03-26 06:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Zaina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
great dream but . the world and the human beings on it are going to a bad bad place and we need to REDUCE the population. more than 2 or 3 of your OWN is UNTHINKABLE for a person with conscience. I dont mean to sound negative but I am only the messenger... A_D_O_P_T children who NEED YOU and love them as your OWN but reproducing a TEAM is not reasonable. It is beyond all reason
Good luck w/your dream but PLEASE consider my answer here
2007-03-26 06:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by larrydoyle52 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
avoid the rednecks, meet a nice 'country' boy, your dream sounds bizarre to me, but if it is what you want, then go for it!
2007-03-26 06:45:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋