HELP
2007-03-26 06:37:29 · 21 answers · asked by justwin7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doggy not in the rear
2007-03-26 07:06:03 · update #1
well when you get her from behind dont ram her be gentle and then transition to her going on her stomach and have it be like missionairy but her on her stomach and you on top it makes you feelalot bigger to her and it pleasures the both of you.
2007-03-26 07:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I assume you are talking about anal sex, and not just doing it doggie style.
If that is the case, you both need to take it easy and do some research and relax about it. As long she is willing to keep trying, then it will be fine. And she should not be worrying about stretching. Her a s s was “designed” to let pass bigger things than your dick.
The key here is to learn to do it right. First of all, you both need to be clean. Many people agree that the best anal sex is done after she gets not just a shower, but also an enema. She can do that with any shower hose, and let it out on the toilet as some s h i t could come out as well.
After this, the next step is to have lots of lube. Your saliva is not enough for beginners. Nor is her natural juices from either side unless you are lucky enough to have a wife that can squirt for real.
The best position to start is doggy style so she can be wide open, but you must just stay there, and she must do the trusting, so she can do it with her own pace, not yours. You could also sit or lay down and let her sit on top of you. This works as long she can open wide in this position.
And then comes the problem: her mind. She must relax, and never hold the PC muscles. In fact, she should do the opposite, that is to push out. This action makes the muscles open and her little whole becomes big and expanded. She will be able to get you inside her with no problem like this. After she learns to stay relaxed, you will be able to experiment with different positions.
For many women, anal sex can give them more pleasure than normal sex as it excites not only her anus, but also her vagina and in many cases, it reaches her g-spot. Together with the fact that is “dirty”, she could have wonderful orgasms out of it.
Don’t forget, the anus is a place that is packed with bacteria. Keeping it clean will reduce any risks. If you decide to switch between front and rear door and also include oral, make sure she is aware (and you too) of the risks. You two must be clean, and never have sex with other people to avoid STD problems. And always wash very well after you finish having anal sex.
If done right, most women can enjoy anal sex as much and better than regular sex, don’t forget that.
Good luck, and have lots of “dirty” fun!
2007-03-26 06:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm going to guess when you say behind you don't mean in the backdoor. As a girl who has the same problem but in the misionary position with my hubby, we use astroglide, with all that lube she's bound to rip less. Keep it by the bed or where ever you are doing it and apply as needed. If she's already torn I wouldn't use it on that spot because it will burn if she's cut. Also if she can stand the cold, try ice cubes on the outer part or if you really want to get down, insert them.
2007-03-26 06:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you talking about sex from the butt? if so well heck yes a lot of people would find that extremelly uncomfortable and that is why they do not do it. now if it is sex doggy style then...to some women it can be uncomfortable and to some it is okay. but either try some lube like ky jelly or other positions that are comfortable for both of you.
2007-03-26 06:42:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before plowing in head first and her to the root on one shot, common sense should tell you to slow down and prepare. Try some lube and play with the are. One finger, lube. Two fingers, lube some more. 15 minures of relaxing opens the door. Take it slow and make it enjoyable for before diving right in. To quick or unexpected equals pain. Reverse positions menatlly. How would it feel to you if you were her?
2007-03-26 06:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get over it!! It does hurt at times. One suggestion (if you HAVE to have sex this way) is for her to move and try to get in a position that's right for her. The lower to the bed she goes, the easier feeling and less pulling. Good luck
2007-03-26 06:43:11 · answer #6 · answered by PNJ T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts too bad and its stretching her???? Thats the worst lie I've ever heard.
Try to find out why she's lying to you and what the real reason is that she doesn't want to do doggy.
2007-03-26 08:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Use a position that doesn't hurt her. There are many to choose from.
EDITED TO ADD THIS AFTER READING OTHER RESPONSES:
I see from other responses that some people are assuming this to mean an*l sex, but I didn't...I'm thinking you mean d*ggy style. Which one is it?
2007-03-26 06:48:21 · answer #8 · answered by kp 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then stop doing it that way
if it hurts her then stop it dont you care at all for your wife if you do than dont be selfish and make it so when you do have sex it is pleasing to both of you stop being selfish in bed cus I'm pretty sure if it hurts her she isn't enjoying it
2007-03-26 06:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't go in as far, that's what hurts me. Or try having her lie on her stomach, then it can't go in quite as far, and it's really good that way!
2007-03-26 06:42:02 · answer #10 · answered by 1978girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋