She is divorced with two children . She lies so much she doesn't realize she is lying . About little things , big things she doesn't care . She now tells my 7 yr old granddaughter to lie . I catch her lying a lot and I really want to help her , what can I do ?
2007-03-26 06:31:44 · 15 answers · asked by mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this is a compulsive action. one for which she needs counseling.
it is like a person who steals with out thinking.
she needs counseling and she is teaching her daughter I am sorry I know what this is. My sister is doing this also. I just let her listen. knowing I can not really believe her. and tell her I love her. My parents before they died tried to confront her on this but she would get all defensive. you need to just let her be if she is not going to get help. just love her and hope that things do not get out of hand.
I know this sounds bad. But an intervention will not work. she will just assume you and who ever is ganging up on her. She will become defensive and then you will not be some one she can rely on any more.
Your best bet is to wait till she asks for help. and pray that nothing major happens till then.
I am praying for you.
2007-03-26 08:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an adult and has been one for quite a few years now. She knows she's lying and she knows it wrong. But if she doesn't want to stop it there's nothing really you can do about it. Was she this way while growing up? Did she have an unhappy childhood where she constantly had to lie to other children? That would tell you a lot right there. However, its nice you want to help her especially since she is adversely affecting your 7 yr old granddaughter. But unless she makes the effort to stop she'll just continue to do what she does.
2007-03-26 06:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't get her to stop. You can start telling her you don't trust her and point out reasons why. Talk to your granddaughter about lying, tell her why it's not right and how it can hurt her in the long run. Your daughter may be a lost cause until something really big comes back at her because of a lie she told.
2007-03-26 06:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could take the computing gadget away till she is in a position to comprehend how risky that is. there are such an outstanding form of on-line predators only waiting to attack youthful women (and boys even).....that's a scary concept and that i have considered some video clips on Lifetime the position this has handed off.....in the adventure that your daughter is a computing gadget whiz, then there is not any longer any preventing her in determining the thanks to get around the passwords and such...and believe me, I had no theory what i became doing when I first were given my computing gadget on the age of 12. i'm now 20 and that i understand way too a lot about pcs in that element.... i could take her computing device privalages away for awhile and search for advice from consisting of her about why you probably did.
2016-12-02 20:31:25 · answer #4 · answered by luci 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might need to confront your daughter about your grandchild, but when it comes to your daughter she is to old to tell what to do. She might even have a hard time with you talking to her about her daughter. It is a hard thing to do. She made her bed and should lay in it. I am sorry I wish I could tell you it will get better, but my ex had done the same thing. He finally has dumped the girlfriends and spending time with me and the kids. Hopefully she will realize she is doing wrong, but can't promise it.
2007-03-26 06:38:15 · answer #5 · answered by Chelle F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't respond to the things you think she's lying about. Learn to let go more of correcting her. You're driving yourself nuts. Just go"Hmm, that's wild." or "wow. that's crazy" or "what are you going to do about that?" and don't offer advice...she's not going to take it anyways if she's lying to you about a situation...take care of yourself and your own nerves, don't let her frazzle you. It doesn't mean you don't love her, if you feel guilty, just tell her 'Love you' when you get ready to hang up the phone...she'll get sick of not getting a response from you. always gently remind your grandchildren that whatever happens in their lives, honesty is best. Not like you're correcting them, but more of just how to get by in bad times.
2007-03-26 06:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by QueenMama D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to go and talk to someone and figure out why she is like this and get her own help. All you can do is love her and at the same time, make sure you don't get sucked in in the process. Being around lies is toxic.
2007-03-26 06:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her go, also ..... and make a vow to yourself that if either she or your grandchildren want to come to you to talk about telling the truth you will be ready to be sweet and truthful to them ......but, I would not nag ....
On the other hand, there are times when a grand-parent needs to step in...if there is danger for some reason ...
Peace & Love
2007-03-26 06:41:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a psychologist. Most people who are pathological liars are telling lies that they wish were true because their lives are not what they want them to be - so they are substituting their desired view of reality for reality.
2007-03-26 07:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's 32 Mom. Time to let go of the apron strings.
2007-03-26 06:35:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋