and found out later, after the fact that she had lied about her birth control use. While I am pro choice and feel as though abortion should continue to be a legal option for all women everywhere, i am not a supporter of abortion used as birth control. I would have still gone with her to help her with the before and after even if she had told me she had not used birth control. I am however very upset that she lied to me about using birth control, and even more so because now she has said that her boyfriend does not like condoms and neither does she. Should I tell her that I am angry with her for lying to me and that I feel, pro choice or not, that sex is a responsibility and she is horribly shirking her duty as a woman by NOT taking care of her health and safety they way she should, or should i keep my mouth shut and let it go?
Really not interested in the abortion = murder rhetoric so many of you like to spout off about. This question is not about abortion opinions.
2007-03-26 06:01:20 · 19 answers · asked by juniormintsrock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It is possible that she didn't want to tell you the truth because of this very reaction. Maybe she hid it from you so you wouldn't be disappointed in her. Obviously you are important to her. Secondly I understand the importance of close friends' opinions but maybe you should take a step back and ask what it is exactly that you're looking for here. Does she owe you anything, in the way of an explanation, or otherwise? Do you want to scold her? For what? It won't change anything, except maybe making YOU feel better.
The bottom line is, she found herself in an extremely tough situation, you were there for her, regardless...like a true friend should be. Why not leave it at that?
2007-03-26 06:10:14 · answer #1 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her. I'm pro-life but that's regardless. I'm also pro-'not having to put so much money into social programs' that are due to situations like this. You are right, it's irresponsible to use abortion as a method of bc. Instead of preaching, show her what could happen if she continues to do this. There are some horrible cases out there about people that die from complications, can never have kids or have to get all their parts removed because of repeated abortions. One is dangerous enough. If she's not interested in taking the bc pill, she could always get the depo shot, once every few months.
2007-03-26 06:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by msannawilson 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that you should express what your opinions and thoughts are on the situation. I am pro choice also, but I think that it should be used as a last resort. You need to tell her what's on your mind and that it was wrong for her to lie. If she and her boyfriend don't like using condoms, then she needs to start with the birth control pills.
Hope this helps, and good luck with that!
2007-03-26 06:56:25 · answer #3 · answered by marcus aurelius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a friend, I would talk to her and tell her how you feel about the whole situation. it is very irresponsible to use termination as birth control. And yes, she is shirking her duty to herself and any unborn child by having unprotected sex. Speak up - she sounds like she needs a reality check. Just be sensitive to her reactions though if you want to keep the friendship - she may feel as if you're stepping over the line and interfering - but you were to help her through the procedure, so she should accept your opinion and realise the reason why you feel this way. Good luck
2007-03-26 06:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear_45 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the doctors should have givin her a year supply of birth control after her procedure. she might be a little emotional at the moment so wait till you know she is stable and can talk about it. hopefully this was a lesson to her and she will want to get on birth control. ask her if she requested any and ask what she plans to do for the future. but defintitly talk to her about it...i get how you can mess up not thinking it can happen to you, but when it does and you make that choice you learn a lesson and never want to go through that again, i hope she is smart enoff to see shes not invincible. good luck with her and keep being the awsome friend your being shes lucky to have you
2007-03-26 06:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lovley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I am going to say about this abortion. Is I don't believe in it. Only a few reason why I would ever even consider doing that to an innocent baby such as being raped or to sick to carry it. Other then that no. I'm not downing her cause of her choice or anything. To answer your question. Yes I would sit down with her and tell her exactly how feel since she lied to you. Freinds will be friends. And if she can't except that you don't appericate being lied to and can't trust her as much. Then thats her problem not yours! It would be time to find a new friend I would think.
2007-03-26 06:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Don't Speak! 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She needs to go to a clinic or a doctors to get some type of birth control. It is hard on women to keep going through this type of thing. As a friend you need to let her know there are other options besides condoms.
2007-03-26 06:08:04 · answer #7 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, you're actual entitled on your thoughts and opinion approximately this. i've got faith the way you do related to abortion, yet i will see your standpoint on your pal's habit. Abortion and miscarriage are very complicated issues to might desire to flow via and deal w/ from a woman's standpoint, so i might purely save your opinion to your self on the instant. She's probable going via an severe quantity of guilt for a) feeling like a failure and b) for killing her newborn. If it injury you that deeply, purely gently tell her which you like she have been open w/ you from the beginning up with regard to the shortcoming of delivery administration use, so which you will possibly desire to assist her easily! enable her comprehend that while you do no longer have faith she might desire to apply abortion as a ability of delivery administration, you felt which you have been betrayed b/c she did no longer enable you comprehend the excellent tale till afterwards. additionally reassure her which you're her pal and could help her w/ in spite of determination she feels she desires to make for her very own well being, yet she desires to be in strengthen and straightforward w/ you so which you would be able to proceed to have faith her. leaving at the back of her right this moment might do no longer something valuable for her, yet in time, enable her comprehend of your thoughts. good success!
2016-10-20 11:56:33 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should tell her how you feel, cause if you don't, you will always have some-what of a grudge, some-what of an issue with her choices. This will eventually wear your relationship then. I really do feel communication is the key to any good friendship. Good luck.
2007-03-26 06:08:19 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know how you feel, I mean she can't run to the clinic every time. And money wise, thats gonna get costly. Tell her where she can get birth control and maybe offer to go with her for that. Just let her know you are upset about her lying to you.
2007-03-26 06:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by kMaz 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋