I need help. My exhusband was very abusive and when I left I got out in a hurry no place to live or even a job because he harrassed me and got me fired. I have been fighting for my child ever since. He goes into court and tells them lies about me and no one will do anything to defend me. I can not afford an attorney and he had the best attorney in San Diego. My daughter is suffering from this can any one out there help me. I have court docs to prove my side, he just keeps adding more lies and more lies and the court allows him to do it. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!
2007-03-26 05:57:11 · 8 answers · asked by zyann0102 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The funny thing about lies, the more a person tells, the more obvious the lies become. A judge will see his lies for what they are.
If you look around, you will find a lawyer that will help you. You just have to show them your evidence and if it is good and they think that the judge will find in your favor, then they will take the case because they know that when you half of his stuff, they will get a third of that. Plus there are some that would like to go up against the best lawyer in San Diego just for the reputation.
So, calm down, look for a lawyer, find a new job. Next, if he is the type to rub your face in his victory over the phone, go to Radio Shack. They have these wonderful tape recorders that allow you record phone conversations. Without being obvious, talk to him on the phone and see if he will tell the truth there. Just don't blow it. Good Luck
2007-03-26 06:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by my_alias_id 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for free legal counsel or borrow money from family. Keep a log of every time you ex husband harassed you and file a retraining order if necessary. The major things working against you are leaving without your child, not having a place to stay and not being employed.
You need legal representation in the court.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 06:06:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no "public defenders" for divorce cases! They only work in the criminal system.
Call your local Bar Assoc. and see if any firms are offering pro bono work for victims of domestic violence. This is a pretty comman practice among bigger firms so yo may have a shot.
If you have "court docs to prove your side" why can YOU just present them in court? Sorry but your story sounds a bit fishy. If you really are the victim here, good luck. If you are just some gold digger trying to make fake claims of abuse just to get back at your husband, then I hope you get nothing.
2007-03-26 06:08:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone can afford a public defender.. So I would try that, get a job too.. anything you can fix before he takes you to court for the final decision is great.. Do you have a good home now.. All the documents you have will be nothing if you have not fixed what he is saying you are doing...And keep everything you have. All of it, as far as him lieing about you.. well that happens in these cases, that is basically what they are to do.. MAKE THE OTHER LOOK UNFIT.. do you have any proof of him hurting out, or him going to jail, any calls on your voice mail... good luck and everyone here is going to give you great ideas, just take all they say to heart ok... good luck again
2007-03-26 06:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to ask your family for help with a lawyer. This is very unfair treatment and you need to defend yourself and your child. The only way to do that in this case is to have a lawyer that will present your case and make objections on your behalf when fraudulent statements are made about you. Your family will help you because they love you and will realize the gravity of your situation. They will also realize that they may lose precious time with their granddaughter/niece if they allow this to continue as it has (he may have all the rights at its end).
2007-03-26 06:07:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am writing this from experience-I lived in Calif. (grew up there) during my divorce, they really do suck(the court's down there!) my ex was actually hurting my girl, & he STILL got visit's!!!CPS evidence & all!!!! She's 21yr. now, butI'd say, get a legal aid attorney, they're just as good as one you'd pay for. I had to move out of state w/ my girl,15yrs. ago-Mine was a VERY weird case though, He actually got his attorney to be his girlfriend!! FREE attorney! HE was slick! (crazy slick!) Keep record's of event's, it doe's help- but, have to admit, you have to be prepared to FIGHT!!!1st, thing you should have done was take your child & leave, Because, a cop told me(wene I was in Ca.) if I didn't take her & leave , he could keep her 'till court process was over! so, I left! Why did'nt you take your child w/ you?? Don't understand that one, no way I was going to let my ex. have her-hard enough to leave her for visit's w/ him. Good luck though-Calif. court's suck!!! Kind of ironic, I lived in oceanside!
2007-03-26 07:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by mgle3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its about time the shoe gets on the other foot!
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2007-03-26 06:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋