we both love each other and r perfectly normal but her fear of sex is inceasing day by day we want to solve the problem with out use of medicine or phycotheripist please advise a home grown remady thanks
2007-03-26 05:53:47 · 16 answers · asked by tariq w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what is the fear??? the penetration???
have you got a large organ???
maybe she needs someone with experience to show her the way...
have you tried oral??? or any toys to tease her interest???
2007-03-26 05:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Something that pervasive and severe is going to require a therapist with experience in sexual disorders. I know a lot of people feel that there is a stigma associated with therapy, but it is getting less every day. The simple fact is that the mind is amazingly complex and when something can't be fixed through willpower and wishing, then you need someone completely objective with experience in situations like this.
Are you afraid they will turn your wife against you? Because that's not what they do. Find a good therapist, and their job will be to help your wife understand why she feels this way, and what she can do about it. Wouldn't that be worth it?
2007-03-26 13:04:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lappet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tariq can you tell me how it started?? did she had a past that scared her when it comes to sex. If this is the case, it will be solve by not seeing a doctor or even a physiotherapist. Your love is so strong that even now you respect your wife's emotion and fear. There's only one thing that you can do, help her by answering me question then maybe the two of us can work together,..................just let me know and I do am sorry for whats going on with her. This is not permanent,just have to find the right words and person that will listen...........be safe!!
2007-03-26 13:09:48 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make her feel comfortable. Maybe set a mood. Candles, food, music and every day you two may go a little "further" until she feels comfortable. Let her know that you love her and that your relationship means a lot to her, sex or no sex. But hey, if that doesn't work, you'll have to resort to other methods.
2007-03-26 12:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seek marriage counseling immediately. Your wife may have been abused or may have another concern that is making her fearful.
Open communication and therapy should get you both to intimacy. Keep reassuring your wife that you love her.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 13:00:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you refuse to see a psychotherapist, then be prepared to see a divorce attorney. Was she raped or molested before you met her? Most women enjoy sex. Try manual and oral stimulation if she will allow, otherwise be prepared for a sexless marriage or divorce. Personally I think your wife is very selfish to keep you from enjoying physical relations with her.
2007-03-26 13:06:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start slowly. Kissing for example. When she gets used to that try some light petting, etc. Be patient and try to allevaite her fears as you go.
2007-03-26 13:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way to fix this is by seeing a doc. If you're not willing to do that, then obviously it's not a huge deal to you. Stop trying to look for a quick fix.
2007-03-26 13:11:19 · answer #8 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of a situation like this...was she raped in the past? I doubt there is any home remedy for this...She definitely needs to see a doctor
2007-03-26 12:57:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
why does she have the fear? is it because a past of sexual abuse? because you'll need a counselor for that. is she a virgin and is afraid of the pain? without a reason it's really hard to give any help!
2007-03-26 13:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋