I can't talk to my friends on the phone in peace, mind u he knows exactly who I'm talking too, and about what. If my phone rings I don't care if he answers it, because I have nothing to hide, but if his rings he don't want me to answer it, BUT I WILL. He calls his ex-girlfriends in another state at least 2-3 times a week (he thinks i don't know) and he pretends he's on the phone with one of his guy friends, but I can tell who he's talking too. (men aren't that smart), He tells them some of our business(i know that too), but when I mention the above to him of course he denies it and gets an attitude and try to turn it around and put it on me like most men do when cornered. I'm so tired of him I don't know what to do. He loves to find something to argue about all the time; just little petty stuff that is absolutely silly. why u move this.? why don't u do that? why did u do this? i told you not to?... I'm trying to find another job because presently we work together. my last nerve is gone
2007-03-26 05:42:57 · 19 answers · asked by mississippi_angel4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to the person that question my dress and my weight. that has nothing to do with it...no he's not a capricorn he is a scorpio, and im not whining and complaining this is Q+A and i'm just asking. Yes I've tried to talk to him and he tells me of course he's grown and I can't run his life, but yet he tries to run mine.....he's one of those guys that has to have things his way....
2007-03-26 06:18:07 · update #1
Just tell him, “You’re getting on my d*mn nerves and if you don’t stop this childish crap, I’m going to whop you over the head with a cast iron skillet”
But frankly, I have to wonder why you’re staying with all that going on? It does NOT sound like a healthy marriage. It's likely not going to get any better unless he has a serious wake-up call (and what do you think the chances are of that happening?) or you get some type of counseling, and even counseling isn't going to work unless HE wants it to work too.
2007-03-26 05:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have what is known as a controlling husband. Some wives are controlling as well. These are insecure people who are always taking their spouses on guilt trips and making life miserable for them. They never acknowledge their own mistakes, but are experts at recognizing yours. And while they can come and go at will, you are accountable for your every movement. The best way to deal with these idiots is to stop allowing the behavior. When your husband asks why you did something, or some other petty question, understand that he's doing so to make you feel guilty, or inadequate. Don't allow yourself to feel either way, and when his constant complaining gets on your nerves, tell him so.
People like this make horrible mates. Most likely, your life will be miserable for as long as you're with this man, so you really should think about your future. If you have no children, you might want to drop him now and avoid having to do so later. If you have kids by him, you'd better start standing up for yourself. Seriously, men like this will destroy every bit of happiness in your life, unless you stop them!
2007-03-26 06:47:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely suggest counseling he has some things that are bothering that has nothing to do with those little stuff you mention and to turn things on you just try's to justify what hes been doing behind your back if you really love him and to work things out talk to him you you feel. tit you feel that theirs no fixing it then just let it go and file for divorce?!
2007-03-26 05:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humph..
He must be a capricorn.
Hire someone to beat his @$$. Just a little. Then that way he won't complain about what YOU do so much. Then ask him if his lil phone friends are gonna come nurse him back to health.
2007-03-26 05:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Just A Newbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you want to live alone. Stop whining and start looking at the reasons he is looking around. When was the last O to completion you gave him, or A or dressed up...or did it outdoors..or in front of a movie...how about your weight! ..shape up, work at it and stop whining or I see a long lonely depressed future ahead for you......
2007-03-26 05:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by JoyDivision 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DIVORCE , your relationship is over and out. Sorry but its the only way or go on and be miserble for a long time.Been there seen it . Dont wait to long as it gets worse.
2007-03-26 05:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by excalibur44 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't say this to often and I'm usually on the guys side but get yourself free from the controlling freak .
2007-03-26 05:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you tell him just like you did here. Straight forward and to the point. Relationships are based on trust and communication.
2007-03-26 05:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by deb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need some marriage counseling asap.
There is so much going on that him being on your nerves is the least of your problems.
2007-03-26 05:48:11 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through this too, I think we both need to get out! I'm trying it's hard. But I know I have to do it.
2007-03-26 05:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by Paradiddle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋