I love to crossdress - wifes not into it anymore?

Question

I love to crossdress and be the wife in bed but the wifes not into it anymore - any ideas?

Answer 1

I can tell you from personal experience that it may be that she needs to feel like a woman, and you being the woman as well doesn't allow her to feel that way. My boyfriend liked to do the same thing you do, and I didn't mind it, even liked it at times. I tried to be open minded and it turned me on and it was fun... but being a heterosexual female I longed for the attention from a man, i.e. I wanted to be "the girl". I always played the masculine role and he the feminine, and while it was exactly what he wanted all the time, it wasn't what I wanted "all the time". I missed having a "man" want me in the way that only a "man" could. I was constantly trying to make him happy, and then at times he would throw me a bone by not dressing up and being the girl, but being the man and making love to me the way I liked it. Unfortunately, it was obvious to me he wasn't as turned on if he wasn't in his female role, and being treated as a female. This made me feel unattractive to him, and unwanted. I wanted my man to want me, man to woman, but at the end of the day I felt he was only doing me a favor, and sorry, but, don't do me any favors, especially in that dept. I want my man to lust after me, not just have me admire him in a dress, it's just not the same as really being desired by a man. It's a very primal feeling and there's no mistaking when it's absent.
It was a fun thing sometimes, but it was too much of the time, and that's what didn't make it fun anymore. It seemed to be more about the crossdressing (which made him very happy) and less about us. She's probably open to the crossdressing because she loves you and wants to make you happy, as I did with my boyfriend, but it gets to a point where it's not exactly what we as women who love men signed up for and we don't feel desired for who we are. It can get to be a little selfish, these fetishes. It shouldn't be about the fetish all the time, it should be about your love for each other. My boyfriend and I broke up after 3 years. I loved this man with everything that I had, and am heartbroken that it didn't work out. The crossdressing was only a part of it, (athough a bit of a shock when he told me about it) I tired to be open to it and I was, but he seemed more interested in how he felt in a dress than about me. I try to make myself attractive by wearing a nice dress and shoes and he would say how beautiful I looked, but then he'd be standing there in a dress and heels too, and it sort of felt like it just canceled me out. My guess is she needs to feel like the wife in the relationship and how can she if you're the wife too.

Answer 2

Are you sure thats all you want to do, or is there more? Have you found that by being given permission, some of the thrill has gone, so maybe you have been pushing to cross dress at other times too. You need to sit down with you wife, and come up with a clearly defined set of rules with regard to when and where you can cross dress.

Answer 3

Work out a schedule where you can do what you want, she can do something she wants, or lets you play dress-up once every 2, 5, 10 times.

Answer 4

By "not into it anymore," I assume that at one time she was. Are you open and honest with her and do you have open lines of communication? This is important to her, as this is new and different to her. Other than this, I suggest counseling for you and her, and if she doesn't want to go, just you.

Answer 5

you should find another girl or a nice man to play together....
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Answer 6

maybe you both need a counselor to work out your differences together. sounds like it.

Answer 7

I wonder why - ask Jesus he will tell you all the answers you need to know - Elim Pentecostal Church will supply answers.

Answer 8

find someone that accepts you for who and what you are!!!!